Every year, today comes and goes and there are no feelings or cards to send and it appears this is a trend. My Father has not spoken to me in 18 years. Why do you ask? My Father was an abusive man. He was a very angry man…not alcoholic and no drugs…how does this happen?
There are so many fathers I see that are not there for their children. This is very sad. I have become a very strong woman as an adult but feel the wrath of not having a father in my personal relationships.
So for any father that may be reading this, please take the time to be in your children’s lives. It is more important that you know just to be there.
Does anyone have a story positive or negative that they would like to share on this glorious occasion of Father’s Day?
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Miscortes- I am sorry about your father, I haven't seen mine in 10 years. When he was in my life, he was a great father--there is no doubt in my mind that he loved me but unfortunately fell into the world of drugs and alcoholism.
I now have a baby with a man that I have seen first hand be one of the greatest father's in the world- not only because he has been amazing to our 5 month old son, but because his 10 year old daughter from his first marriage calls him her "superman". I have been with him for 5 years now-- and there is not a day that goes by that he doesn't call his daughter, not a day that he doesn't miss her or wish she was with us all the time. Raising a child "part-time" has been the hardest thing in the world for him and even though he gets to spend time with her with any opportunity he gets, he still feels robbed from his little girl's childhood and youth.
I admire men like him, who put their family and children before any night out with their friends, who would rather spend their birthday at home, than go out to party. He runs home after a day of work just to see his son, to play with him and love him. Every single day he asks for new photos or video of our baby--all because he doesn't want to miss a thing. I am lucky to have found a man ready to have children--and his children are lucky to have a dad that truly deserves to be called a father.June 23, 2009 - 5:41am
I'm sorry to hear you don't have a positive relationship with your father. Ever since my parents divorced, nearly 30 years ago, I haven't spoken to my dad, either - because I told him exactly what he did NOT want to hear. Frankly, my attitude is that he's missing out on knowing my great kids - his grandchildren.
My kids had my DH's stepfather and still have his biological father in their lives as grandfathers, so they're not missing out on that experience.
You are so right, though, that fathers need to take responsibility for their part in bringing children into this world. I'm grateful that my DH has been such a good father to our kids, and we're now looking forward to becoming grandparents.June 22, 2009 - 6:42pm