Divorce is never easy, and although it can happen once or twice to anyone, one divorce is different from another. But no matter what caused the rift, there is always stress and worries after the separation. The best course of action to stay calm and take your divorce head on. Here are a few ways to simplify your divorce and ultimately, your life.
Talk to a lawyer ASAP
One of the first things that you need to do is to call an attorney right away. With every divorce different from others, it's a must that you get legal help right away. A divorce lawyer will help you find the best course of action according to your needs.
A divorce lawyer can help you with the following:
* Prepare you for your divorce by educating you with each step of the proceedings. Take note that the most experienced a lawyer is, the more experienced he will be in handling your case even if it takes you to court.
* Get you sound answers to any questions you have about divorce.
* Get the best dispute resolution for your case (mediation or arbitration).
* Provide you with the best solution in securing your assets while minimizing mutual obligations.
* Provide the ideal solution for child visitations, temporary custody, and any arrangement when it comes to your children.
In case your divorce goes to court, your lawyer will help you with proper court decorum, prepare all the documents, update you with all information about your case and accompany you in legal proceedings.
A lawyer will handle all the legalities of your divorce and will let you "live" while everything happens in the background. You might think that lawyer fees could cost too much and how could you afford this now that you are getting a divorce? The truth is you can count on most divorce law firms to provide you with fixed rate divorce packages which mean you get the same speed from start to finish. There are no hidden fees, no additional charges and nothing to worry about. The best way is to talk to a lawyer right away; don't forget to ask about fixed rate divorce fees!
Get social, talk to friends, family and loved ones
The best way to cope with divorce is to communicate with people you love and trust. Talk to people personally, give your loved ones a call or use social media. Unload all your fears, worries and stress, and you will find it easier and far better to cope with your divorce than sulking at home alone.
Aside from family and friends, you can also join focus groups or social groups. You can talk to your lawyer or through your divorce law firm on the ideal groups to join. Be sure to join groups with reliable and efficient moderators beforehand.
Take a no-fault divorce or a simplified divorce
Available in some states simplified divorce, and no-fault divorce is unique types of divorce mostly applicable to couples who were just married for a short time or those that do not have children or have only a few marital assets. These types of divorce make it easier and less painful to file for a divorce. Talk to your lawyer about these.
If there is a prenup, there is a post-up
A postnup is setting financial and personal boundaries before a divorce is final. This is a legal agreement that must be signed by both parties and helps to divorce couples separate without any worries and stress. And as a prenup is prepared by an attorney, your divorce lawyer can also arrange for a postnup and have both parties sign the agreement.
A mediator can help
For divorcing couples that may need to make joint decisions about their children, a mediator can help. A mediator can become a helpful neutral party who can guide couples in making the right decision. A mediator can also make communication easier between the two parties especially if there is disagreement between the couple.
* Divorce Mediation is available in almost all states and is even offered online. A divorce mediator is preferred because
* It is less expensive than going to court for a series of hearings.
* A mediator can handle any settlement of any issues of the divorce.
* A mediator will listen carefully to your principles and ideals and will decide on what's fair in your situation.
* Mediation is a personal service; unlike using a lawyer, there will be no public record about your situation. You can still hire a lawyer though if you wish.
* Mediation will encourage better communication between you and your spouse. This will prevent any conflicts in the future.