People universally seek happiness, albeit not necessarily with thoughtful consistency or in the same way. Unhappy people often trip up being something they’re not. Follow the opposite path to happiness.
1 Decide to Be Happy
Oddly, counselors routinely leave this one out as if happiness just comes along at random. Unhappy people know that it seldom does. Asking the question, “Why should I be unhappy?” puts the process on a solid footing. Happy people seldom find such reasons, while unhappy people often have a list, so the next step is to adopt a practice of regular, mindful self-affirmation. That’s a mouthful, but it’s not complicated. At bedtime tonight take a deep breath and say three times each, “I forgive myself.” “I forgive all others.” “It’s okay for me to relax.” “It’s okay for me to say no.” “It’s okay for me to focus on my well-being and my best interest. “ “Happiness is my right." I will make my dreams a reality.” Repeat throughout the day as needed.
Knock down the wall of guilt then consider that issues of body image anchor it, often from an early age. Granted. Almost no one looks like a supermodel. Wait. What? That’s right, almost no one. Everyone else falls closer to average, so we have the same shot at the brass ring as almost everybody. True. People who look like Brangelina fuss more about their hair and nails. Maybe they spend all day at the gym working on their figure. Most of them go all out on their smiles, too. On the other hand, being closer to average doesn’t mean that we have to stay there. Consider giving yourself a makeover, that includes your hair and maybe your nails. Eat a little better. Get a little more exercise and think about seeing your dentist. A straight, white toothy smile boosts confidence like nothing else. If you don't have the straightest teeth, Mar Orthodontics might be someone you'd want to consult. They do invisible braces in Edmonton in Canada, among other things. Even though they might not be local to you, they could at least point you in the right direction.
3 Tune up your wardrobe
Along the same lines, give your closet the hairy eyeball. Something—or everything—in your wardrobe should show dressing “…for the life you want and not the one you have.” Remember the accessories. New accessories create new looks at lower cost.
4 Take a focused vacation/find a hobby and share it socially
Tired people are rarely happy and they seldom feel confident. Focused vacations combine rest with exposure to things you’re interested in seeing. There’s a good chance that others share your interest. Sharing hobbies socially works the same way. Voilà. Instant social network. Let that lead where it leads.
As St. Francis de Sales once wisely said “Do not wish to be anything but what you are, and try to be that perfectly.” Follow these four steps to become happier in thirty days.