My boyfriend and I have been together for 3+ years. In the first year, after about 6 months of dating he spiraled into a deep depression that later was caused by high anxiety and OCD. As i carried and supported him through coping with his illness, and keeping in this relationship, we have grown closer and stronger than I ever really did imagine.
Unfortunately though the road is not that short. For the past year , after diagnosis and counciling, he has been on and off many MANY different medications that have had a huge effect on his sleep, and in terms of this relationship, sex drive.
Currently I am at lost because being young, i have a sexual appetite that is only natural. I have brought up the issue countless times, in regards to him showing little initiation in the act. when we talk about it he gets excited and proclaims that the lust, desire, and spark are still there... yet if i dont initiate (even though then it doesnt always happen).... the reality is all in words.
I know not to take it personally... because i understand the side effects of the medication, but what do i do when my needs are starting to be lost ? I realize that with less intimacy, I soon just lose my sense of how important and healthy it is to have it. I go through waves of realizing this and striving to find a conclusion ..... but im just at a lost as to what to do.
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Hi discombobulated perfection,
Thank you for sharing your story with us. It's a very tough situation to be in-- you love him, but his meds are severely interfering with his sex drive and in turn taking a toll on you.
This will be a part of him forever because, unfortunately, medication compliance is extremely important. So, your question is-- what do you do? Only you can answer that question. Do you love him enough to live with him and deal with sex being what it is and perhaps engaging more on self-pleasure? Or is the lack of sex drive so bad that you're willing to throw your relationship away?
These are some questions you need to ask yourself and answer before making any decisions.
All the best!
Rosa
May 4, 2011 - 5:21amThis Comment