Moving on after a divorce is crucial to your well-being. It can also be very difficult to face, especially if you were married for many years. When the bulk of your life was tied to and perhaps dependent upon another person, divorce can make you feel like you are somehow a failure. But there is another way to look at your life; for example, it's a new life, new beginning and there can be lots of exciting new things!
Some helpful ways to make your transition easier after a divorce include the following ideas:
If you are relocating, most every city usually has an information packet, or a welcoming website that will help orient you with the various companies you will need to contact in order to establish services for your new life and home. For example, the electric, cable, telephone and other companies, change of address forms, and how and where to get a new drivers license.
There are many free community resources as well that provide tremendous emotional and social support. For example, support groups, divorce recovery groups, and religious based groups--it helps to seek out people who are in similar situations, because they can be good at providing emotional support and communication.
One of the many challenges that make divorce so difficult is that while you are dealing with the divorce itself, you still have to get on with a new life for yourself and your children.
Things you can do to launch a new life:
Phone Home--a lot of people often become so involved with their nuclear family that they have lost track of other relatives and friends. Reestablishing ties with parents, siblings, and friends can help create your own personal support group to help boost your self esteem and help you through the difficult times.
Pay Attention To Your Health--It is important to take care of yourself physically during times of stress. Without your health, what have you got? So eat properly and be active! Remember your physical health is tied to your emotional health.
Reconnect With Yourself-- Start a journal about your feelings during this difficult time and help rebuild your life.