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By November 30, 2011 - 6:13pm

Hello everyone. I'm Kera and probably the newest member of this group. I'm not even sure what I want to say right now, but I felt like venting. I will start off by saying that I love my boyfriend to death and wouldn't trade him for the world, but for the love of God why the heck do men have to be so ridiculous.

It's partially my fault because against the advice of everyone around me, my boyfriend is five years younger than me. Sometimes a five year gap is not that bad, but it all depends on what part of life you are in and the maturity levels. I am 30 and he is 25. Not so bad, but sometimes it seems like we are worlds apart. He still has a lot to learn and so much growing up to do. Sometimes I feel like I don't have the patience to wait for him to catch up. He does treat me well and loves me to death. I think the worst thing in this world that I could ever do to him would be to leave him.

That being said...he is one of the most frustrating people that I have ever met in my entire life! He doesn't think before he speaks, he's sometimes very negative and closed minded, he's hard headed, and he thinks he should always get everything he wants. It really drives me crazy sometimes. I guess what I always wonder at the end of the day is...could I stay with him if he never matured? That answer is no. That is terrible of me to say, but true. I can't deal with his immature way of thinking, speaking and acting. He does have his moments of maturity and promise, and he has so much potential to be the man he wants himself to be. The good thing is that he wants to change and grow up and learn what he needs to live a fulfilling life, but he is very slow in the process. Is it wrong of me to want the process to rapidly speed up? Should I have more patience?

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By Anonymous December 9, 2011 - 5:09pm

Hi ladykera,

Welcome to EmpowHER and thanks for your question.  I feel it's important to understand he is a younger person and men by nature mature at a different level then women.  It might be better for the relationship to be more patient, if you really want it to work for you both.



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