Hi everyone! I am new to the site and relatively new to online social/support groups. I have to admit that I'm not happy to be here, but I'm happy that this web site and support group is here. I never planned on being here. After 22 years of marriage, my husband decided he wanted to change his lifestyle and that his wife and children no longer mattered or fit that lifestyle. Call it a mid-life crisis, or perhaps a mental crisis--I'm not sure. He's been gone for 4 1/2 months now and the kids and I are adapting very well. Unfortunately, instead of settling this in an uncontested manner as he had originally promised, he has decided to drag it through court and that it doesn't matter what it does to our children or our finances. So, thousands of dollars later and I'm just getting started in this whole horrible process. I know better days will come, but right now I cannot see the proverbial "light at the end of the tunnel". It sure would be great to hear from some of you ladies about how to survive this unfortunate mess and come out on the other side a stronger person. I am grateful for the support that is easily available these days with the internet. I'm not sure how ladies endured these kind of events years ago when the only support you could reach out to was your limited circle of family and friends. Prayers on behalf of me and my children would also be greatly appreciated.