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I was raped by my ex husband

By October 6, 2012 - 4:08am

My ex husband and I split up over 3 years ago (I broke it off with him). He threatened that If I took my daughter he'd hunt me down and kill me. He took me daughter 2500 miles away from me to live with his parents. I would make trips when I could to see her BUT as a stipulation to my visiting my child, I was required to have sex with him whenever he wished. Usually on two occasions per trip he would call me and tell me that "we needed to talk". That was code for " we are going to a motel and you are going to have sex with me". It wasn't generic sex either. It was rough, hateful, sex where he'd slap my face and tell me to call myself a whore. It was horrible, but he told me if I refused, he would take my daughter and I'd never see her again. At the time, I was unsure if this was rape. It felt like rape, if feeling violated, humiliated, mixed with indescribable hurt and anger while someone is having sex with you who KNOWS that you do not want to be there let alone be having sex with them. He would tell me things like it turned him on knowing that he was pretty much forcing me to have sex with him.....it disgusts me. I had nightmares at least once a week for 2 years. Its not as much now. 2 years after the last incident and only just found out for certain that this was rape. And I am only just now starting the legal process. I don't think the law enforcement are taking me seriously though. I was told weeks ago that someone would be calling me. I have yet to hear from them. I feel lost

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By Anonymous October 7, 2012 - 6:30am

Hi itsjustme,

Welcome to EmpowHER.  Sorry to hear this, thanks for sharing your story.  Am sure here you will find lots of answers and support from others with the same problem.



October 7, 2012 - 6:30am

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