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By December 12, 2015 - 6:47pm

I have been with my boyfriend for the past two years. I'm 28, he's 30. We knew each other about 14 years ago, took each others virginity, and stopped talking up until two years ago. We've been through a lot together..drugs, and living a hard life, but have both managed to get and stay sober. A few months ago I found a cell phone of his, turned it on and found him talking to another girl, on pretty much a daily basis. He had been lying to me for months about who he was with and what he was doing..all this time he was with this other girl. Long story short, I called him out..I was hurt and upset. He swore to me that nothing was going on with her, that he loved and wanted to be with me. Since then, I'm lucky if we have sex once every couple weeks, he always seems agitated with me, and doesn't really care for me the way he used to. Obviously I don't trust him. It still hurts, if anything more now that I've given him a second chance. I'm trying to learn how to love myself more than him so I can kick him to the curb. That's what I'm having trouble with. Any tips on how to get over this is greatly appreciated!

By March 8, 2017 - 9:18am

Two years of your life is way to long spending it with someone who obviously didn't choose you because if he had he never would have lost your trust the way he did , he would have Loved you enough not to wander . Please don't stay because it sounds like his second chance didn't made it better . Search deep and figure out what it is that keeps him with you it must be some need because it can't be Love ... Everyone deserves to be fully loved by someone and Trust and loyalty should never be in question and if it is its not the right relationship to be in ...

March 8, 2017 - 9:18am
By June 19, 2016 - 8:23pm

Unfortunately I've been in this situation before. I honestly gave my ex so many chances that he no longer took me seriously. But I was able to learn to love myself after I left. So my tip for you is to leave him. So long as you let this person disrespect and hurt you, you'll never love yourself. I know it's not easy but if he can't appreciate the second chance, he's really not worth your time. I hope things get better for you.

June 19, 2016 - 8:23pm

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