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Found Out My Boyfriend Masterbates To My Ex-Bestfriend's Online Pictures, What Should I ...

By March 22, 2018 - 11:37am

Yesterday I caught my boyfriend hiding pictures of my ex-bestfriend on his phone. And he admitted to me that he has a masterbating problem. This all happened when he gave me his phone to hold on to while he was going to hit up the sauna at the gym. I'm not a gf that snoops in other people's phone, I was just curious to see what kind of sexy pictures he had of me in his phone bc when we were in a long distance relationship for 4 years I would often send him sexy pictures of me to keep our relationship strong. So after I was done looking at the pictures he had of me, I noticed that he had 15 pictures deleted on his phone. The first thing that came to my mind was, this is weird I wonder which pictures he would delete, if they were of me or of something else? So I clicked to see the photos that were deleted and he had a few porn pictures of some random girls I didn't know, but he had about 8 pictures of my ex-bestfriend, who was such a bad horrible friend to me in the past and we are no longer friends. I was waiting in my car with his phone when he finally walked out of the gym and came in the car. I couldn't talk bc I was so angry. I showed him the pictures I found and confronted him asking why the hell did he had deleted pictures of her and he had that look on his face like he messed up bad. I kept asking him when he confessed that he had a problem. A masterbating one. And at first I was so confused bc I've never caught him masterbating. But in the back of my mind I always knew he masterbated, I just never thought about what he masterbated to, I just assumed porn like any other person. He did admit to porn, but I kept asking him WHY to her? The one person he knows was a shity person to me and a bad friend to me, who I never want to have in my life ever again. He didn't say anything. This is the second time that I've caught him with hidden pictures of her on his phone, the first time he said that he was just being nosey and only looking her up bc his friend was talking to her and wanted to see if it was true? Now I think that he was just using his friend as a madeup excuse to check her out. Like if he had a crush on her or something. But he swore it was nothing like that and he apologized for hiding something like that behind my back, that he never cheated and that he doesn't even talk to her. But I honestly now believe that he would look at her pictures back then to masterbates as well. After the first incident, he really broke me and cried my heart out bc he made me question our relationship. What hurt me the most was the he broke my trust. It was so hard for me to truely 100 percent forgive him all the way after that, but I tried and i was able to after a year bc i loved him so much to work it out and find in my heart forgiveness. He promised that he wouldn't hurt me like that again and he deleted all his social media apps and we were good. I know he never physically cheated on me bc when he'd come back home from college we'd always be together and I have really good instinct about things like that. But the fact that after we had gone through all that years ago and knew how much that caused me pain and messed me up for a while, mentally, he basically does the same thing again a few years later. Same thing, same girl! But this time I know about the masterbating. Like the masterbating problem i have no issue with bc everyone does it, but him having recent deleted pictures of her in his masterbating pictures collection upset me. Bc WHY her? I'm fine with porn and whatever but not with someone i know who was shit to me. I feel emotionally cheated on. Does anyone think something bad of this? Should I be worried? I asked him if he still loves me and he said of course, but I don't know if I'm enough for him? I makes me feel stupid and weird about it. He says he knows he has a sick problem and that he's a shity person for do this to me. He said he just can't help to masterbate. And when sometimes i don't want to have sexy time bc I'm tired or not in the mood, he does it bc he can't help it. Do you think he has a thing for her or if he's not satified? Sometimes I know he can't finish when we have sexy time and sometimes he'll try hard and long to try to get off. That sometimes makes me feel bad, like he can't finish with me at times. There will be times when the sex is great and we both finish, but other times one of us can't seem to finish. We communicate good and talk about our feelings when we're upset with each other. But he's never talked to me about him masterbating in secret to her pictures. He says he doesn't do it all the time, just sometimes when we don't have sex, he has an urge to look for something to masterbate to and relieve himself. I don't know what to think. I'd appreciate some input bc idk what to feel tbh. I've been through this already but this time it's different bc he admitted to having a masterbating problem and i don't even know if this was just recent with downloading her pictures from online or if every time he masterbated in the past he would look at her and just delete pictures i didnt know about.

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