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Pregnancy after tubal ligation

By November 30, 2010 - 12:21pm

I am a 29 year young mother of two beautiful girls, 9 and 8. I recently had my tubes burned, becaused I suffered some severe physical and emotional abuse from my ex-husband. Due to my long string of relationships with abusive men, I didn't want to risk having a child again with another horrible man. Let me say that I love my children more than anything in the world! I never thought I would find a man worth having a child with, didn't believe they existed. I met the most wonderful man in the world last Christmas. He respects me, and treats my children and me the way we should be treated. He wants to marry me, and be a father to my children. Lately, this overwhelming feeling of guilt and misery has been looming over me. I realized I could never give this man a child. He says it doesn't bother him, but I think he just doesn't want me to hurt. I can't afford the procedures to fix what I have done, so I just pray that it will happen naturally. Reading other posts, I noticed it isn't as crazy as I thought to think this could happen. Any thoughts???????

By March 11, 2011 - 7:28am

I appreciate your comment. I am definitely not doing it to make him stay. If a man doesn't want to be with me, then I don't want him to stay. I just have this guilt issue about him never having kids because of me. He always says he wants to marry me, and he wouldn't leave me without a fight. He is a great man, and I just wanted him to experience the most wonderful feeling in the world. He is an honest man, so you are probably right about trusting in his response to the issue. I guess the hang up here, is that he is just like me, and will suffer to spare anothers feelings. Its funny, when I originally had the procedure done, everyone asked what I would do if I got with a man that wanted kids. My response was...."If he doesn't like the fact that I can't have kids, then he isn't the man for me anyway." Now I am with this wonderful man, and my mind is all screwed up. He only said once that it might be nice to have one some day, but its not necessary. I think I just think to much.....lol. Oh well, if God wants me to have another child I will, if not, then it wasn't in the cards to begin with. Thanks for your advice, and good luck to all the women out there that want children, but are having trouble conceiving.

March 11, 2011 - 7:28am

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