Dr. Kenney shares a quick way to improve a child's negative behavior.
You know, one of the steps that you can use fastest in order to improve your children’s behavior at home is to make agreements about what you will do and stop focusing on what you won’t do, alright?
So let’s think about tone. I will speak with you in a nice tone. Let’s think about words. I will use words that lift you up. Let’s talk about non-verbal expression and how we use our body. I will use my body in a way that doesn’t show you contempt, or I will use my body in a way that’s not critical and demeaning.
So what you do with your children, especially when things still are really out of control, is first you quiet the tone in the home. You make an agreement, “Hey, maybe we can fix this all in one day, but let’s at least agree to stop yelling,” all right?
And then once you have successfully been able to not yell for a few days then you say, “I am really liking the not yelling. Could we actually take the next step and work on the words that we are using, or the tone that we are using, or the way we are using our bodies”.
So changing your family and improving your communication, improving your relationship and getting small behavioral changes without using a whole big new system, is just changing one tiny way that you interact each time.
About Dr. Lynne Kenney, Psy.D.:
Lynne Kenney, Psy.D., is a mother of two, a practicing pediatric psychologist in Scottsdale, AZ, and the author of The Family Coach Method (St Lynn’s Press, Sept 2009). She has advanced fellowship training in forensic psychology and developmental pediatric psychology from Massachusetts General Hospital/Harvard Medical School and Harbor-UCLA/UCLA Medical School. Dr. Kenney is currently a featured expert for Momtastic.com and Parentsask.com.