Facebook Pixel

How to Talk to Your Daughter About Sexual Assault

Rate This
be sure to talk with your daughter about sexual assault Comstock/ Jupiterimages/ Thinkstock

As any parent knows, the world can be a scary place for teenage girls, and adolescent women are the most likely group to be sexually victimized.

But all too often, discussions of rape prevention put all of the focus on women by telling them to avoid certain locations, avoid staying out late, or only wear modest clothes.

This practice can leave women feeling terrified in the world and is unlikely to prevent sexual victimization. But you do still need to talk to your daughter about sexual assault.

While nothing you do, short of permanently locking her in a cell, is a guarantee of safety, ongoing conversations about sex and sexual consent can greatly increase your daughter’s likelihood of escaping her teenage years unharmed.

Talking About Sex

Before you talk to your daughter about rape, you need to talk to her about sex. Many parents attempt to roll the sex and rape talks into one discussion, and the result is a child who is terrified of both.

Fear does nothing to help your daughter and can actually increase her likelihood of victimization. Equally important, as uncomfortable as it may be, it’s important for your daughter to understand that sex should be pleasurable.

If she comprehends that sex is a mutually satisfying, loving experience, she’s much less likely to give in to pressure and will more easily recognize the difference between sex and rape.

Safety Tips

Teenagers can be amazingly unaware of the risks of the world. Don’t assume that your daughter has common sense about danger, because the odds are good that when she’s getting pressure from her friends — or a cute boy — her common sense is likely to go flying out the window.

Talk specifically and explicitly about methods for staying safe, and be sure to offer the following advice:

• Never go anywhere with someone you don’t know very well. Someone you met an hour ago is not someone you know very well.

• Travel in groups as much as possible, and if you separate from your friends, establish a clear time to meet back up that’s no more than an hour in the future.

Add a Comment1 Comments

EmpowHER Guest

I have two sons and I took away some information I hadn't even thought about before. Today life is different than when we grew up, sex is everywhere. They are exposed at an early age to sex via television, video games, and the Internet. I recently saw a discuss about Prince Harry and his photos, the experts said to this young generation that wasn't that shocking. Further evidence is the prevelance of sexting, the sending or recieving of sexually explict photos or texts. All of this makes talking to teens about sex and absolute necessity. We also need to talk to them often about these things. I know when I was growing up we had THE TALK and that was the end of it. Science shows us that just like when they we toddlers and you had to tell them over and over again, the same thing is true now that they are teens. Keep your talk short, but often. Have the technology talk, make sure they know it isn't ok to send inappropriate pictures, texts, or videos to anyone. Help them practice saying no and help give them an out. My 13 year old was asked if he wanted a naughty picture by a 12 year old girl. His out was NO my Mom would be alerted if you did. That is what he texted her back, why? Because I have aBeanstalk. This is a new app that helps parents know when their children are in harms way Online and when they text or post photos. It also gives my son an out when he is being pressured into something he's not comfortable with. It filters my sons digital world 24/7 and only when things go out of bounds I get a real time alert. Then I have a conversation with my sons. Check it out go to www.aBeanstalk.com and get started for FREE.

September 8, 2012 - 9:35am
Enter the characters shown in the image.
By submitting this form, you agree to EmpowHER's terms of service and privacy policy
Add a Comment

We value and respect our HERWriters' experiences, but everyone is different. Many of our writers are speaking from personal experience, and what's worked for them may not work for you. Their articles are not a substitute for medical advice, although we hope you can gain knowledge from their insight.



Get Email Updates

Parenting Guide

Have a question? We're here to help. Ask the Community.


Health Newsletter

Receive the latest and greatest in women's health and wellness from EmpowHER - for free!