Managing Your Relationship
Whether you are newly diagnosed with a vulvar issue or have been suffering from discomfort or a condition for quite some time, it is important to realize that your medical condition has a direct impact on your relationship and its overall quality and health.
Relationships need constant attention and work so they flourish even during times of adversity. Couples often forget that their relationship is growing and changing as they grow older. As we age and gain experiences, our relationships also change with time. Sometimes we can take our life partner for granted and not give them the attention they need or deserve. At other times we fail to communicate effectively or are harsh with criticism when praise and support are needed. When facing the challenging medical issue of painful intercourse, it is important to address relationship considerations. Both partners need to communicate in an honest and accepting fashion, speak and listen with respect and understanding, and remain emotionally and spiritually connected.
Vulvar discomfort is a common problem that many women with vulvar conditions experience. Sexual health is a complex matter that involves both the medical and psychological aspects of the sexual response cycle. Medically, veins, arteries, and nerves coupled with hormones, neurotransmitters and even vitamins may all be important in the overall sexual response cycle. Women are not only ruled by anatomy and the pelvic organs, but other psychological aspects can directly and indirectly affect the sexual response too. Fatigue, stress and time management are also issues that must be addressed in order to achieve a satisfying sexual relationship. If you are suffering from a chronic medical condition, like vulvodynia or lichen sclerosus, maintaining a healthy sex life may be problematic and a constant challenge. There are some simple tips that can be tried to help improve your sex life. Important actions to consider include: redefining sexual activities and addressing activities of daily living such as diet, exercise, and stress and time management.