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Does Love at First Sight Exist?

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Approximately 60 percent of Americans believe in love at first sight. And over 50 percent say they have experienced it.

Do you believe in love at first sight?

Remember the guy in high school that you couldn’t take your eyes off? The one whose last name you practiced writing in your notebook. And, you may have even daydreamed about your upcoming nuptials and your future children.

Almost immediately you're struck by the feeling that you may have just found Mr. Right. But that's crazy, isn't it? Or is it?

Some psychologists say that love at first sight depends on your psychological state at the moment. We are programmed to instantly size up a potential partner. (This intuitive skill was likely developed millions of years ago as our forebears struggled to sort friends from enemies.)

Experts say that it takes about three minutes to fall in love or to estimate whether the person is worth to fall in love with. Also, psychologists claim that men fall in love first.

Now, it takes less than one second to decide whether you find someone physically attractive. If, however, he fits your general concept of Mr. Right, your mind races toward the next checkpoint - voice.

Once again, you respond in seconds. Women typically regard rapid talkers as more educated and men with full, deep voices as better-looking than they are. Next: his words. We like people who use the same kinds of words we use. We are also drawn to those who have a similar degree of intelligence, share our religious and social values and come from the same economic background. Women quickly determine these attributes from a man's words (not to mention how he dresses and wears his hair, whether he's carrying a briefcase or a soccer ball and if he's sporting a gold watch or a tattoo).

But can this handsome, deep-voiced, well-dressed stranger give you what you need? Women form an opinion within the first three minutes if the conversation turns to, say, politics or kids.

Now, love at first sight doesn't happen to everyone.

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