Ira Krasnow may have only interviewed 200 women in writing her newest book due out early October, but she suspects -- as do I -- that the feelings of those 200 women reflect those felt by so many more.
Krasnow is a bestselling author and an assistant professor in the School of Communication at American University. Her writing has been featured in many national publications, including Parade, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Postand AARP The Magazine.
The Secret Lives of Wives -- Krasnow’s most recent book -- continues her journey as a journalist who chronicles the adult female growth cycle.
For the new book, Krasnow spent two years interviewing countless women on their unions of anywhere from 15 to 70 years. Krasnow, herself, has been married 23 years and during that time raised four boys.
“From my own experiences, and from the dozens of sagas unloaded into my tape recorder, I am constantly reminded of the eggshell-thin line that separates loving from loathing. I know that staying married can mean plates flying across kitchens, tears soaking pillows and emailing old boyfriends at 3 a.m.,” Krasnow said in an article she penned for the Huffington Post.
In conducting her interviews, Krasnow assures that she’d heard it all. From adultery, to threesomes, to a husband finally coming out of the closet, Krasnow’s skin has thickened. Of all the shocking tales she heard, there’s one thing she says surprised her.
“My biggest shock is how many outwardly cheerful women who have been married forever think about divorce if not weekly, at least once a month,” Krasnow said.
While maybe not the most scientific research method, Krasnow says of the 200 women she interviewed, she can count on one hand how many said they never considered splitting up. And it wasn’t just women in bad marriages that said they thought of getting out. Numerous women who had a very comfortable, very pleasing marriage still thought about getting out.
“Many of these settled midlife women admitted they were slightly jealous of Tipper Gore who gets to have a fresh start after 40 years of matrimony with the same guy,” Krasnow recalls.