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The Importance of Being Mrs. Somebody – Does Getting that Man Down the Aisle Make Us a More Successful Woman?

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I was watching a clip of Dr. Phil last week (it was for research, you judgers!) and it featured some self-professed “spoiled princesses” who, even nearing 30, were funded by their wealthy parents in their quest to get their PhD's in neuroscience and then spend five years in a poor African country tending the ill and conducting research on how to stop certain pandemics. Oh yes, I joke! I do! The Princesses were simply out to find one thing: a man. A husband, and a rich one at that. “No nine-to-fiver driving a Honda, thank you very much,” said one young blonde woman. After all, she’s a Princess! She even wore a tiara with two carats worth of diamonds (actually, she has a whole collection, as I know you do too) and trotted about the city, in all her spray tanned glory, looking for a little fame, a little fortune, and a husband with a not-so-little bank account.

Dr. Phil sent Princess# 1 to work for a day with infamous public relations professional Kelly Cutrone and the whole thing was a pretty standard set-up. Princess walked in with cleavage from here to China, wearing a tiara (I was upset she had no little dog in a little dog purse. That's a Princess fail, right there) and failed miserably at her temporary job. Cutrone was most outraged that she couldn’t fold clothes. Over and over she exclaimed “but she couldn’t fold clothes!” no matter what the topic. I was more worried that Princess# 1 spoke like an 8-year-old, has no discernible intelligence and practically glowed neon with her orange tan. But if not being able to fold clothes is a huge problem to the hard hitting and ultra sensible Cutrone, then perhaps it’s me who’s missing the point.

Once that segment was over, on marched another blonde, big-chested woman who was also no stranger to the makeup chair. Hello, Princess #2! Sitting with her mother, they both defended her lifestyle - again, completely funded by her rich Mom - that focused on her fabulous career; a couple of photos in Playboy (I’m assuming the internet version of it), a spot on The Millionaire Matchmaker (you saw that coming) and TWO mentions in Page 6 of the New York Post. Two, not one!

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EmpowHER Guest

I think it is sad when people base their happiness on future circumstances in any situation.

November 15, 2010 - 10:51am
EmpowHER Guest

I met Mr Right when I had just turned 16. We married when I was 18½ and I'm now 54. We have been totally besotted with one another, totally in love, the whole time and neither of us would swap a day of it. We're not rich, or famous - not even close. I would never trade money or status for the love and joy that we've shared. This is heaven on earth. But I know that not everyone finds this joy and I would say to anyone to wait for the man who is your best friend - no matter how long that takes. It's worth it.

November 12, 2010 - 12:21am

We are all different so nothing applies to all...however; even at 50 I am still looking for my life partner. I have never been married and believe that my journey is not completely fulfilled. I've done it all on my own and I am tired of it, but I've waited this long for the "Mr. Right", I am not willing to compromise and I'm still working on ME.

November 9, 2010 - 2:00pm
EmpowHER Guest

As a single person in her late 40's that has had several long-lasting, rewarding relationships, I am proud to have never married. I tell people, I didn't get the married gene. I think I also didn't get the married "pressure". I feel a relationship (with contract or not) is about being partners and equal. If you need someone to validate you or to make you whole, I would say keep working on you. Creating one "whole" is not as great as get one plus one (or TWO!). Stay strong singles! - Jamie

November 8, 2010 - 5:21pm
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