The Do’s and Don’ts of Fair Fighting
-Do be clear about what you want.
-Do stick to the issues at hand.
-Do look at both sides of the story.
-Do listen more than you talk.
-Do apologize when you are wrong.
-Do not look for total victory.
-Do not prolong the argument.
-Do not nag or withdraw.
-Do not take the moral high ground.
Ways to Reduce the Stress on Your Marriage
-Talk to a friend.
-Find time in your day to do something that makes you feel good.
-Do not dwell on your mistakes.
-Forgive yourself and your partner.
-Do not expect perfection from your partner or yourself.
-Find ways to take care of your partner and yourself.
-Change the scenery.
-Eliminate unnecessary pressure and people.
Prescription For a Sexier, More Exciting Marriage
-Show your love every day.
-Touch each other lovingly.
-Show and tell your spouse what pleases you.
-Make time to spend alone together-go on a picnic.
-Play and laugh together.
-Talk to each other- share your fantasies, dreams, desires, needs and wants.
-Leave each other love notes on occasion. It makes the other person feel good!
Ideas for Resolving Money Differences
-Sit down with your partner and talk about the way each of your families of origin dealt with money.
-Talk about the effects that past experiences may be having on your present attitudes about money. Ask yourself and your partner if those current attitudes and behaviors make sense.
-Understand each other’s short and long-term financial goals.
-Understand that your different values and ideas about money require ongoing negotiation.
-Respect each other’s values and preferences about spending and saving.
- Brainstorm solutions that make you both feel comfortable.
-Respect each other’s contribution to the marriage as equal- even if one partner earns most or all of the money.
-Make sure you and your partner both have access to a significant portion of the money.
-Agree on an amount that each spouse can spend without consulting the other.
Take a few minutes to answer the following ten questions with a “yes” or “no”.