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Since my dad was in the Army, we moved around a lot and usually didn't live near either set of grandparents. So... growing up, on Mother's Day, it was all about my mom. There are 6 kids in my family and my parents are still together after 55 years this year. We would all go to church, have a meal and the day would be all about my mom, an army wife, a mother to 6 kids, a choir singer, church board member, employee etc etc. My mom is an amazing lady and I still don' t know how she is still sane after raising all 6 of us kids with all the moves and changes.

Now that I have my own kids, of course, I appreciate what she did all the more; the sacrifices made, the energy she put in and what she got in return (which kids don't always understand ..not til they get older). She was the role model I had for raising a family.While she was very successful, but that model doesn't exactly fit my family now.

One of the greatest days of my life was becoming a mother. I waited until I was 36 to have a child. After I had my son, I realized that the relationship I had with his father (my husband at the time) was unhealthy and I was willing to tolerate him but that my son deserved to live a life in a happy environment so I moved on. I took my 7 month old son and left.

When my son was 2 I met the man I am now married to. He had 2 daughters that he was raising on his own, they were 5 and 8 at the time. His parents are also local and so his family helped out as they could. We got married just over 2 years ago.

These dynamics changed the Mother's Day I knew. Mother's Day was all about my mom and just her. All 6 of us are her naturally born kids, we adore her. While we were kids and did the things kids did, we made the effort for her to have a special day. Now, my Mother's Day is usually split between me having a day and us going to my in-laws. It's also different because no matter how much a parent tries to relate to a step child, things are always different than the a child born naturally to you, you just don't get the history that comes from day 1.

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