A friend of mine misunderstood me. He took whatever I had to say the wrong way and just snapped back at me. The conversation was heated up even before I had a chance to convey my message clearly. I wonder if he is going to be alright now or if he is going to reciprocate with some other action.
Communication amongst loved ones is the most crucial aspect of keeping up with relationships. Different words mean different things depending on the situation a person is in, their mental condition, their level of maturity on the subject spoken about, the closeness of that person to the other, the attitude of the person speaking, body language, number of words spoken, amount of time spent on a particular subject, language and most of all the subject sensitivity.
1. Situation calls for majority of the meanings driven from a word. When someone is in a bad situation, depending on that situation they react to others’ words. At these times, what others say influence us greatly. We are already feeling bad, and when the other person says or tells us something in regard to our problem we may take it the wrong way. This happens because we are on the receiving end. If it was a good situation, we are in a jolly mood and we don't see the faults in the other person's comments.
2. When a person is depressed about something, no matter what anyone says, it will sound negative. It is not because they cannot understand what is spoken but they choose not to let it sink. Simple things like coming home from work could trigger an irritating situation if someone is saying something to you. I know when I came home I didn't want to listen to anyone or a single word out of the kids' mouths for a while until I had a cup of tea and relaxed.
3. When we speak out thoughts to someone, we expect them to understand what we mean. But that person has to be on the same level of understanding to at least grasp the situation we are in. Some people sit and ask questions or lay out their concern in a practical way to be sensitive to our situation. But for some, discussing our problems somehow put them above us on a pedestal.