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Dr. Marty Klein - How Do I Get My Spouse Involved In The Decision-Making Role In Our Relationship?

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No sex or relationship question is too embarrassing because it's time to ask EmpowHer's sexuality expert, Dr. Marty Klein, anything.

Michelle King Robson:
Dr. Klein, a woman on EmpowHer submitted this question for you, “How can you encourage your spouse or partner to step up to the plate and take on more of a decision-making role in your relationship? I have noticed that over the years, I have to make all the decisions, whether small or large, in our marriage. Why is that? And I want the input but always get the same answer: ‘It doesn’t matter to me; you make the decision.’ How can I express how important his input is without getting him upset with me?”

Dr. Marty Klein:
Well, I never guarantee that you can talk to people without getting them upset, so forget about that. I mean, you are asking for a major change in the relationship. Of course he is going to get upset about that. He is cruising along thinking, “Everything is the way I want it; we don’t have to do anything differently.” You are coming in and saying, “Hey, I want a big change around here.”

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