Worlds Oldest New Mother Dies Leaving Behind Twin Toddlers

Hi Anonymous,

This site is for insight and opinions and we don't not discourage anyone's opinions. There are precautions to think about being over 40 and trying to conceive but we do not discourage. Genetic anomalies is a big concern but seeking medical expertise would be beneficial in your case as you should try to conceive. It is certainly a gift.

Please keep us updated on your progress, this would be a great story to share with the community. Wishing you the best in your quest for Motherhood.

Who are you people to say when and why women over 40 shouldn't have children? Everyone's story is different, I'm 40 years old and trying to conceive. I recently got married and since I was in my mid-20's I have had problems with trying to get pregnant. It wasn't in the cards for me then and maybe not in the cards for me now. I go by faith and if God so happens to permit me and my husband (who is 34) to have a baby at the age I am now then who am I to dismiss that precious gift and miracle from our father? I want to be a mother, but I'm not desparate to be one if it doesn't happen. There is always adoption, and/or getting a puppy.

The true reason why women older than 35 shouldn't be having kids is because the rates of genetic anomalies increase significantly after that period. This is from the medical point of view. Having children at older and older age increases their risk of having congenital malformations and cancer later in life.

I don't know the background of this unconventional mom, but I think the issue here isn't if she was too old to have kids or not. I consider the real problem the fact that she apparently took that decision without a "plan B" for the children in case something happens. If she were a woman with some sort of economical security, I wouldn’t care about her age. But if she has to SELL HER HOME to get the procedure done! I understand she may have had a really big need in fulfilling her life as a mom, I think that's the basic reason way anybody has kids, at any age... Looking it that way, everybody who reproduces is being selfish in one way or another.
Anyways, this woman in particular, doesn't sound to me that she took that decision with all the marbles in her head. But, who does? Making babies nowadays is a privilege only the wealthy and the unconscious have.
I’ll use myself as an example. Today, I’m 26 years old. I’m still finishing school and I intend to have a career and grow professionally. I also want to travel and have the possibility of getting to know other countries and cultures. I still haven’t met the man I would want to have children with. So… what are my options? If I don’t get the chance of settling down with a man and have children in my thirties, does that mean I have to give up motherhood? I certainly don’t want children if I can’t give them the security they deserve. But if I could in my 40’s or 50’s (or 60’s?) because I already succeeded economically and there was a way, I would consider it seriously. The main issue here is if she had the kids responsibly or not. Not her age. And her death was just plain bad luck; she didn’t know she had her days counted when she conceived her children. Who knows? Maybe if she wouldn’t have cancer, she would’ve been a great mom!

It may have been somewhat selfish, but are we going to tell younger people with a chronic life threatening condition that they are not allowed to have kids? I think she really wanted to have children and be a mom, I doubt this was a spontaneous move that she made just for attention. Deciding who can and cannot have kids is a risky area.

If you have to deceive medical professionals to get INV then that is a problem. There are regulations put in place for your safety and the safety of the child. It's irresponsible not only for the doctor to perform the procedure but for the woman to take on that sort of risk. It is selfish and regulations will be strictly reinforced with women who abuse it like Octo-mom for an example. It has nothing to do with "not looking like other moms". Being a parent is a responsibilty that no one takes seriously anymore.

My mom had me when she was 40. So far so good. I'm 20 now and have a a great life so far.

Anon above me, you seem rather selfish yourself. Learn to think about other people, perhaps? "Oh, my mom is in her 40s! Woe is me! My life is so hard." My mother had me when she was 36 and I never ever felt as if she was too old or out dated or whatever. I was never bullied because of my parents, I've never even heard of that. And living until 86 isn't exceptional. My grandmother was 86 when she died last year. Sure, having kids at that age isn't a good idea, but not for the reasons you said. You seem awfully shallow.