Did you ever notice how the anxiety about doing something is always worse than the actual event? We spend so much time worrying about things, most of which are completely beyond our control. Imagine being able to harness all that energy and use it to move toward something positive.
Anxiety and worry are forms of resistance and resistance tells us we are experiencing fear. There’s a saying, “What we resist persists.” It persists because we are focusing our attention and energy on the thing we don’t want to happen. The universe doesn’t hear negatives; it merely sends us a match to the thing we’re vibrating about the most. Wherever we focus our attention and energy, we will receive a vibrational match to that, whether it’s positive or negative.
Practically speaking, understanding this can take us a long way toward shifting our realities into more pleasant experiences. I’ve developed a process to help apply this concept into action.
1. Identify the fear behind the resistance.
Look at the situation clearly and logically from as many vantage points as possible. Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen? How likely is that? And how would I move forward from there?”
2. Acknowledge what you can change and the things over which you have no control.
This step is critical to releasing the energy of resistance; we take on responsibilities that don’t belong to us while shirking our responsibilities to ourselves. Reversing that pattern enables you to stand in your power.
3. Enlist support for yourself.
We’re not meant to do this alone. Call on a friend or family member who can support you unconditionally or hire a coach or therapist.
4. Make a plan for moving forward and take authentic action, even if it’s baby steps.
Maybe you want to leave your partner but can’t figure out how to realistically do it. Figure out one thing you can do to make the situation more bearable in the meantime. Speak up for yourself, perhaps by insisting s/he take on more responsibility around the house.
5. Take time for yourself every single day.
You deserve at least an hour of alone time each day.