When you are ready for a night of passion and romance with your partner, the last thing you want to ruin the mood is the pain associated with arthritis. That can quickly put a damper on the evening….or lazy weekend afternoon! When you are struggling with the pain and stiffness of arthritis, sex is probably one of the last things on your mind. The proverbial excuse of “Not tonight, honey, I have a headache,” has been replaced with the burden of joint pain and the unpleasant side effects that are triggered by arthritis medications. Even though you realize your partner loves you unconditionally, you may simply feel like a bloated, dried out mess with no energy and certainly lacking in unbridled desire to hop in the sack and make hay! If anything, you just want to lie on the bed and not move at all.
As you know by now, joint pain and inflammation make even the simplest of activities, such as standing up or sitting down, quite the challenge. The mere thought of the various physical positions often required by the act of intimacy may bring tears to your eyes. Not only are you experiencing vaginal dryness, fatigue, and reduced sensation due to poor blood flow, but you are most likely dealing with the emotional burdens of depression, stress, and anxiety. You may feel less attractive and the only way you are going to get into that bed is with the lights out and in your bathrobe, and all you want to do is cover up and go to sleep. Romance will have to take a back seat for a while…or will it?
Don’t let arthritis come between you and your partner! You just need to reclaim your desire and your excitement. All you need is a few helpful tools to get you going, and before you know it, you’ll be saying “yes, yes, yes” far more times than “not tonight, honey.”
First of all, be sure to openly discuss your feelings with your partner. He might not even be aware of what is going through your mind. Talk about your fears, your concerns, and why you have a lack of interest. The last thing you want is for him to think you have lost interest in him, as that’s (hopefully!) not the case.