I have a 19 yr. old daughter, very smart, making bad decisions. I have been a single parent for about 9 yrs. and just recently remarried. Some background regarding my daughter is that her Father is a Cardiologist from Syria, threatened to take the children out of the country at my daughter with the issues age of 8. Her siblings were 4 and 5 yrs. of age. There were 2 attempts at abduction at the time. The father broke 3 of my ribs in front of the children. There were legal battles in court trying to keep the children in the US for many years. My 19 yr old was a very good student in high school, athletic, weight conscious and angry. Currently, I will attend nursing school in the Fall and my 19 yr. old is a freshman college. The father has told her since she was a little girl that she was fat, but favored her over the younger children. He gave her money, a car, and let her do whatever she wanted. My daughter became physical with me because I could not afford luxury items and turned against me moving in with her father at the age of 17. She got a $70,000 scholarship at Loyola to become an attorney. She could not adjust and was home almost every weekend. At Christmas break she was supposed to bring her older sister home from Loyola who was attending there as well, did not bring her home, and took it upon herself to transfer schools to U of I in the middle of the year. I raised her older sister by myself and she will be attending the U of I Medical School this year as well. My 19 yr. old then went into a downward spiral. She told me she was taking Adderol off of the street at the University, she was caught with a fake ID and lost her license for a year, withdrew from her summer class, started living with a boy, her hair is extremely brittle, and acne all over her face. She said that she stayed up all night during classes to study ( has a 4.0 GPA), would go exercise for 4-5 hours then crash and would not be able to get out of bed for days. I have recently been remarried to a domestic violence police officer. She came home unannounced looking terrible. I took the liberty of going through her purse and found 3 empty baggies. One had residue of a white powder. (possibly cocaine). She stole her little sisters ADHD medication, and her brothers wallet. I took her to Eating Disorder facility for a tour. Of course they wanted to admit her immediately. She would not agree and took off back to Champaign with her friend. As much as I am trying to help her she runs. I have spoken to her Father which was very difficult for me but, he does not help. I am afraid for my daughter, keep trying to help her with medical care, and necessities. I feel like a failure by not getting through to her to get the help she needs. Any suggestions?
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