am I still safe if I didn't use a condom but my partner didn't ejaculate?

Hi,

I would encourage you to visit your gynecologist, as many STDs and STIs are "asymptomatic" (do not have symptoms).

In addition to the skin-to-skin contact, there is also pre-ejaculatory fluid that men have when their penis becomes erect, whether or not they ejaculate. STDs, including HPV, herpes, HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhea and others, can be spread in this way.

There is not a test that can generically test for "all STIs", but your health care provider can examine your for any physical indicators of an STI, as well as talk with you about your risk factors. It may be embarrassing to go, but your doctor has great experience in this field and should be comforting and helpful.

Here is a similiar question:
http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/2523.html

Planned Parenthood is another great resource for STI information, testing and treatment (if needed):
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/stds-hiv-safer-sex-101.htm

I completely agree with Tina with skin to skin contact, even without ejaculation, you are not protected.

Here is another great website that provides 10 steps to safe sex from www.ehow.com.

http://www.ehow.com/how_16296_have-safe-sex.html?ref=fuel&utm_source=yah...

I think we have all been in those unknown situations and are not prepared. I hope this helps.

WorldTraveler, Thanks so much for writing. A person can get some STDs, like herpes or genital warts, through skin-to-skin contact with an infected area or sore. You may want to check out this Web site to find out more about the types of symptoms that occur with each STD so you can be on the lookout for anything unusual should that happen.

http://www.4woman.gov/FAQ/stdsgen.htm

There's also great information at this link as well:
http://www.fda.gov/oashi/aids/condom.html

You may also find one of the government's hotlines helpful.
The National STD Hotline, (800) 227-8922 or (800) 342-2437
En Español (800) 344-7432.

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