Am a widow mother of 3. Am 32years old now and stays alone. Please how can i lower my abnormal y high libido that i cant sleep. Have tried using a bottle only to cause bruises in my genitals.

Hi Anon,

Thank you for reaching out to EmpowHER with your question! I believe I answered your other question in our community about dating a man who does not want children in our community too: https://www.empowher.com/community/ask/am-asingle-mom-3-my-husband-died-6yrs-go-when-i-was-26-and-am-now-32years-old.

There are some different things you can do to satisfy your high libido without necessarily needing a boyfriend. I highly suggest not using random objects to pleasure yourself. This can be very harmful to your vagina and can cause bleeding as you are experiencing.

However, if you want to continue satisfying your high sex drive, you can use something like a vibrator. Vibrators are safe sex toys you can use to satisfy your high libido without hurting yourself. With a vibrator you are in control, so you can have a better chance of pleasing yourself sexually. 

Here is a great resource on EmpowHER that gives some tips on using your vibrator: https://www.empowher.com/sexual-well-being/content/8-tips-using-your-vibrator-first-time.

I hope this has helped! Please let me know if you have further questions.

Best,
Erin