I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 32. We are 15 months together and we live together ever since.. We love each other. He does everything to see me happy, and I'm the same. We are friends, we play with each other, we have fun together. But sexually, we don't have that "fire" anymore. Initially we use to do sex all the time, many times a day. Now I feel like I always have to insist or say something, and many times even I showing how much I'm horny and want to have sex with him it just seems to create pressure on him and doesn't work. When works it still feel so sad as he seems to be doing sex obligated. I miss him, I miss his touch, miss that thing you feel before sex with someone you like, that explosion of feelings and connection... I don't know what to do because I feel really really really frustrated and sad! I don't feel sexy anymore, or desired even when every man on the street is looking at me. The only person who matters doesn't seem to care much. We already spoke about this and we agreed to try to change few things but it always comeback to same the stage! He is always too tired, too sleepy, doesn't have time, or is busy. We live together! I can't understand how we can't have 20 minutes of sex. It makes me think that the problem is me! I love him so much, he is everything to me, but as a woman and normal person I need to have a good sexual life. Because now I always feel like walking on top of eggs, nothing feels natural or connected once the subject is sex between us. I need help because I don't know what to do anymore, if now is like that, I can only imagine how it is going to be once we have a family.
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