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can anyone help me figure this out?

By Anonymous July 21, 2017 - 9:25am
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I usually get my periods at the end of the month every month so im pretty regular but i hadnt had an actual period since february 28, 2016 resulting in a pregnancy which i miscarried on april 14, 2016 i got on the birth control patch on April 30, 2016 My husband and i have been married a little over 6 years now. My husband wanted to try again but i was afraid we started to have problems, We then seperated for about 2 weeks, i thought we were getting a divorce. On may 14-16 i left the city with a co-worker and yes we hooked up the whole time we were together without a condom. I was on my 3rd week of birth control patch. i sort of forgot to change my patch on the night of the 14th but as soon as i woke up the next day the 15th in the morning i showered and put on a new patch.

On may 20 i get a call from my husband saying he wants to return home i said yes very quickly we started to talk about starting over and getting pregnant again, i took my patch off 2 days early and we started trying to conceive but i knew i was supposed to start a period within that week, i didnt start until may 28 it was pretty normal 5-7 days. i took a pregnancy test on june 18 still being very early it was negative then again on june 19 negative. so i thought to myself thank god because of my little slip ups. then come the end of june i expected a period on june 26 nothing so i went and took a pregnancy test it came back faint positive we scheduled a visit with our gyno july 7th, we seen him that day he gave us an u/s my gyno was afraid of me having another miscarriage he suggested us not to be too excited until he runs atleast 2-3 blood works because he didnt see anything but an empty sac and according to LMP he should have been able to see something in the sac my first given due date was march 8, 2017 then march 4, 2017 but i had my baby on march 7 2017. I seriously want to avoid the paternity test. My husband and i are are hispanic we are an olive complexion fairly light but not blondes my co worker is hispanic but hes very fair complexion with very light colored hair he doesnt have coloured eyes. My baby is so white i often get teased if shes really ours or not. she has blue/green eyes i dont really question it since my dads side of the family is full of people with coloured eyes and so is my husbands side. my baby doednt look like us though. someone help me fugure this out dont suggest the paternity test YET please go over my dates first.

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Hello Anonymous,

Welcome to EmpowHER. i do not have much to offer except to take this one step at a time. See if you are able to maintain the pregnancy, which I hope you are.

A paternity test is the only thing I can think of that will confirm who the baby's father is.
If you chose not to have one and not tell your husband about your involvement with your co worker, that is your choice.


July 21, 2017 - 9:44am
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