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Can I be pregnant after 80 days of protected sex? I've got 2 periods in these 80 days post sex

By April 7, 2015 - 11:52pm
 
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Hi. I had sex with my boyfriend on 22nd Jan (protected). The actual penetration act was for 10-12 minutes with a condom on the whole time. My boyfriend was not properly hard with the condom on so we stopped having penetration sex and then after withdrawing his penis out he then removed the condom and then after 15 minutes of oral sex he ejaculated on my torso.
However, he rubbed the tip of his penis on the ouTer lips of my vagina BEFORE we had penetration sex, this was only for 20-30 seconds.

it is certain that there was no ejaculation inside me even with the protection on.
then, I got my first period post sex on 5th Feb 2015, and it was only a day late. This lasted for 4 days, really heavy flow with blood clots and endometrium lining. I usually have heavy periods in a gap of 24 days. This period came after 25 days since the last period.
My next periods were on 3rd March, again synchronizing perfectly with the last time. Lasted for 4 days, heavy bleeding with clots and endometrium remnants. Its April now, and I should've got my periods on 30th-31st March. It is almost 10-11 days late.
it has been 76 days today since I last had sex. I took a UPT after 25 days of having sex (16 Feb) and another yesterday morning (75 days of sex)
both were negative and slightly expensive ones, just to be safe.
I have no symptoms. In these 76 days, my body has actually thinned down, I have lost 3-4 kgs and my boobs have decreased in size. I sometimes get headaches but I have migraine too, maybe that's why. No nausea/morning sickness till now. No extra urge to urinate, no food cravings and no abdominal cramps.
I have bodyache at times but that may be because I live alone and have to manage my household work with college. General fatigue follows but I'm not 24/7 fatigued. I tend to eat less since childhood and its the same till now. No food aversion, no strong sense of smell or any sort of violent reaction to any smell/food etc.
should I stop worrying about being pregnant?

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Guide

Hello adrianneville,

Welcome to the EmpowHER community. Thank you for seeking our advice regarding your late period and possible pregnancy.

You can stop worrying that you are pregnant. You are not based on two negative pregnancy test results and no unprotected intercourse since your last menstrual cycle.

As you know. the menstrual cycle is regulated by a precise balance of hormones. High stress levels, extreme weight loss, eating disorders such as anorexia, and illness like having influenza, are just a few factors that can cause a hormonal imbalance.

If you miss the entire month, consider scheduling an appointment with your gynecologist to discuss possible causes.

Regards,
Maryann

April 8, 2015 - 8:43am
(reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

Greetings Maryann,
Its May now. Over a 100 days have passed. I recently felt that my boons are increasing slightly. I hope that this fact is not related with pregnancy? I'm so worried. I'm developing a phobia for this word "pregnancy " but besides the small increase on the sides of my boobs, there's nothing else. I have got my periods thrice in these 100 days and i had no penetration sex in this period. My breasts aren't even sore. Please help me? Is it normal for breasts to increase /decrease? I would really appreciate your help in worried sick

May 4, 2015 - 5:46am
Guide (reply to adrianneville)

Hello adrianneville,

Breast tenderness and slight fullness are experienced just prior to the start of menstruation. The increase and decrease is normal and caused by hormones.

It appears that your concern about pregnancy is becoming overwhelming to you. Have you considered scheduling an appointment with your gynecologist? It might be reassuring to have an exam and talk about contraception.

Regards,
Maryann

May 4, 2015 - 9:54am
(reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

I think that I'll wait till i get my MC for this month? Also, i just HAVE to ask you this.
What exactly is an MC? It happens when the female egg is not fertilised and the endometrium sheds its lining as a result of no fertilisation right? I have had 3 MC's. I think I'm a victim of over thinking now and it's all in my head. I read that in 100 days, the bump is quite visible and the morphological changes in the female are EVIDENT. I have nothing except irregular MC in these 103 days and breast tenderness which I'm noticing now, maybe this was there earlier too.
You know my case, there's no pregnancy right? :( its difficult to schedule appointments for gynaecologists where i live. I only need am assurance that's all

May 4, 2015 - 5:35pm
(reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

Thank you so much Maryann. It eases my mind to know that pregnancy is not why it's delayed. I'm pretty sure it's the stress and my less than do able eatimg habits/lifestyle that are the problem.
I read earlier that you said "once you have your periods after intercourse you're not pregnant." I'm gonna go by it, no matter what I read on the internet.
Also, in nearly 80 days, it would've been evident whether I'm pregnant or not pregnant, right?

April 8, 2015 - 8:47am
Guide (reply to adrianneville)

Hi adrianneville,

You are so welcome. Be careful, not everything that is posted on the internet is the truth. And yes, after 80 days you would know that you are pregnant:)

Maryann

April 8, 2015 - 9:56am
(reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

Hi Maryann, I hate troubling you for this but I wanted you to know a slight update.
I will take another UPT on Saturday, only for precautionary purposes, that means it will be the 80th day since coitus.
I think that three negative UPT's after 80 days is a solid proof to put my mind at ease? I really want to put my mind at ease.
Another thing, I read that in pregnancy the temperature of the mother rises. Now I think I might have that.
whenever I am about to get my monthly menstrual cycle I get my PMS, and my PMS is like this- first I get loose motions for 2 days, then lower back pain for two days, then high fever for a day and then I finally get my periods the next day.
last month, when I was about to get my periods I got loose motions like usual, then lower back pain like usual and high fever like usual, but no periods the next day till now. That fever continued till 8 days, it wasn't CONTINUOUSLY ON for 8 days, but came for 1-2 hours everyday, and the same happened during PMS Since I was 16. Am I linking this Unnecessarily?

April 9, 2015 - 2:14am
Guide (reply to adrianneville)

Hello adrianneville,

I am glad that I was able to help you. But, you still need to be seen by a gynecologist to determine why you have not had a period. One call to the doctor's office and a scheduled appointment will put this matter to rest. You need resolution.

Regards,
Maryann

April 9, 2015 - 8:56am
(reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

Thank you Maryann. I just want to know your final opinion on this, my periods have skipped, yes. But the reason can be anything BUT NOT pregnancy right? I mean, no intercourse at all since 22nd Jan. I've even gotten 2 regular periods.
Any reason for skipped periods but pregnancy right? And I scheduled an appointment for Saturday :)

April 9, 2015 - 9:26am
Guide (reply to adrianneville)

Hi adrianneville,

Yes, there must be another reason. So glad to hear you have an appointment for Saturday. Please keep us updated following your appointment.

Regards,
Maryann

April 9, 2015 - 9:35am
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