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Could I Be iN Serious Need of Help, FOr A Sex Addiction?

By July 12, 2011 - 1:08am
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Hi, Im 19 years old (not very old) and im posting this up because i have noone else, this isnt something im proud of, its not something i can just ask my best friend or tell my mom, Its more than that its soemthing i need a "proffessional" to tell me that i need a shrink or counseling to get this crazy sex demon out of me, sex thoughts, thoughts of not giving a damn of the consequences it will bring me. Of course i start to think of all the horrible things that could happened if i caught an Std or got pregnant, but i always try to be safe when it comes to sex, and if acccidnet occurs i take the day after pill, BUT IM 19 YRS old ive had 9 sexual partners, and to say it they havent all been my Boyfriends, there has been one night stands, theres been multiple relations, 2 guys same day, im begging you i dotn want this life anymore.. at first i thought it wa sjust because im young "" i have a high sex drive but i dnt wanna be anyones sex call anymore.. "sex isnt a big thing for me anymorE" it kinda comes natural w every guy i meet and I DONT WANT IT TO BE LIKE THAT ANYMORE. for my own safety , i dnt know i might not be at addiction level but i sure know something aint right... masturbating all the time, watching porno, having sex with miltiple guys,,, please what else can i do besides talking to a shrink.. it seems like it wouldnt just be enough talking about it :(
thank you

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Hi Bashful,

First of all, kudos to you for even talking about your active sex life-- many people would never admit to this. It certainly sounds like you're taking a step in the right direction-- you have openly admitted that you've had more sexual partners than you would like to in your short 19 years of life and it is very mature of you to decide that this is no longer the life you want to have. Sexual Addiction is a diagnosis best left to someone else to make. I won't call you an addict, it's got a negative connotation and we're trying to be uplifting :)

I know you think that talking about it with a psychologist may not be enough-- but understand that by talking to a trained professional, s/he will dig deeper as to why you started to have casual sex in the first place. Sometimes we need help to see the big picture; to understand why it is that we make these decisions. For example, sometimes when we don't have a father figure in our lives we replace them with other men that are meant to fulfill that need but in reality don't, or if someone has been hurt by someone that they once truly loved-- a guard is put up to avoid getting hurt again. Every single thing that occurs in our lives, whether it's in our childhood or as adults, will impact the person we ultimately become. This doesn't mean that things can't change...as human beings, we are constantly evolving and this is where you are at now. You can and will change-- simply because no one made you look for help, you're doing this on your own and you are young enough to turn your life around completely. You will need a professional to help guide you in the right direction, to help you find the real reason behind having casual sex, and from there on you will determine, on your own, that having multiple sex partners is not necessary of fulfilling. If you need help finding a therapist, let us know what area you're in and whether or not you have health insurance and we can help you find someone that can best help you.

If you have any other questions that we can help you with, let us know and please keep us posted with your progress.
Here are some resources that may help in the meantime:

All the best,


July 12, 2011 - 8:51am
(reply to Rosa Cabrera RN)

Rosa Cabrera,
Thank you so much for your advice and your words, im currently attending to sessions with a specialized Sexual relations psycologist, Im having it hard... at the beginning, but im sure ill get the hang of this now....

August 2, 2011 - 8:31pm
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