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Hi ladies. I am so anxious and confused. I am a very regular person when it comes to my period. Every month for about a week. April 11-18 I had my period. My husband and I had sex on April 18 & 21. About a week after that I had tingling/electric feelings in my breasts, a few days later I noticed that the veins in my arms and breasts were a lot more visible. I thought for sure I was pregnant. I have two children already, 3 & 4, so I thought I knew my body well. Than on May 8 I started cramping in my upper stomach and than spotting, but it was different. First off it did not smell like my period at all. The blood was watery and inconsistent. It went on for about 3-4 days. One minute I would wipe and it would be there and the next time there would be nothing. Again, I thought for sure this was pregnancy. I have been extra tired, with a few early symptoms but I keep getting a negative test. I took the ovulation tests for about 4 days when I was supposed to be ovulating, according to a chart, and they were all negative. Now my period is due in about 5 days, I feel bloated off and on. I have also been tracking my body temperature for about 3 weeks now and it has been slightly elevated. Everyone I talk to says it is close to impossible for me to be pregnant due to the time frame my husband and I had sex, and having sex just feels different. It is a little harder to get him in (I'm so sorry if this is TMI) and he keeps telling me it feels like there is something in there. I've tried doing my own cervical exam but I feel like my entire area is closing up. I hate waiting and I know that's probibly what most of you are going to tell me but I really want to be pregnant. Every pregnancy calculator I do says I would be 7 weeks pregnant, but when I think about it I think I am only 4. So, ladies please help me ease my mind if you can. Thanks.
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Hi Alison. In regards to the feeling during intercourse, it's not painful and self-lubrication comes a minute or two later. It's just that for a couple of weeks now when we start to have sex it alomost seems like he has to go through an obsticle course or a maze to get completley inside. I don't feel him as "deep" as I normally do, if that makes any sense. Man after just saying that I really feel bad for all of the teenagers out there that are having sex and don't even know what it's all about (just a side note). Another concern of mine is that I have been on Adderall for ADD for some time now and it's been like a teeder totter with taking it. I stopped because I was sure I was pregnant but started taking it again a few days ago when I kept getting all of these negatives, although I did get a very faint blue line but I don't know if I was just being hopeful and doing the one eye charley.
June 1, 2010 - 11:23pmThis Comment
Hi,
Let me see if I can help. First of all, I want to say that I understand the emotional toll this takes on you. We tried to conceive for 6 months, and every month I KNEW I was pregnant. There were tell-tale signs, even though I also know the information (as you do) that pregnancy symptoms and pre-menstrual symptoms are identical. I wanted so bad to be pregnant, to stop wondering, and really, truly felt that my body was telling me that I was pregnant. Then, I would get my period. One period I had was VERY different than any I had experienced before, but it was a period, unfortunately. Just to let you know many of us have "been there" and it is excruciating.
Here are some pieces of information for you:
1. Your period may be different for a few reasons: you are focusing more on your periods, and noticing slight (or significant) inconsistencies that you may not have noticed before. Your periods may be more watery because, well frankly, you are having unprotected sex and may have semen that is also leaking out at the same time. (Sperm can stay in your body for several days, up to 5 days!).
2. Pregnancy symptoms and pre-menstrual symptoms are identical, as many of the same hormones are responsible. I know...you would think something as miraculous as having a fertilized egg implant into your uterus, creating a viable pregnancy, would have some more significant "signs", but there usually are none until further into the pregnancy (usually after a missed period).
3. Your husband would not be able to "feel" something inside of you (thankfully!), as the embryo implants itself into your uterus. The penis only is inside the vagina, and the cervix is in-between the vagina and uterus. He may be feeling the inside walls of your vagina, or could be in deep enough to feel your cervix. Your vagina can feel different, as you may/may not be as lubricated during different times of the month, and that would create a different sensation for him.
Let's talk about the dates you provided:
- Your menstrual period was April 11th, which counts as "day 1".
- Then, you had unprotected sex on April 18th & 21st, which are on days 8 & 11 of your cycle. You could have been ovulating at this time (or, around this time...remember the egg is only viable for about 24 hours, and sperm can "hang around" for 3-5 days inside your body). There is a possibility you were not ovulating at this time, too. You said the predictor kit was a negative for ovulation when you tested.
- Your LMP was May 8th ("day 1" again). Some women do have some spotting during pregnancy, but if you are bleeding and pregnant, this is a reason to see the doctor. Women do not have their menstrual period during a viable pregnancy (there are rare exceptions). You can count this as a period because: it was around the time of your expected period (28-day long cycle), you bled for 3-4 days. This was most likely a menstrual period, even if it felt different, because of this length of time, because of the timing. Some periods are different in amount, color, texture of menstrual fluid...this is all normal.
Today is June 1st, and you are expecting your next period in 5 days. Honestly, it could occur at any time (today is "Day 25" of your cycle, and the normal range of cycle lengths is 21-35 days).
I hope this information helps! I know it's not what you wanted to hear, that your last bleeding was most likely your period, but you still have this cycle to wonder about. Did you and your husband have unprotected sex since your LMP (last menstrual period) after May 8th?
How long have you been trying to conceive?
June 1, 2010 - 3:39pmThis Comment
Forgot to mention that when I say it feels like there's something in there during sex I could explain it better by saying I feel swallon and it takes a couple extra pushes to feel him inside. Does that make sense? Well even if I'm not pregnant this time I have learned a lot about my body with all of the reading I've been doing.
June 1, 2010 - 3:57pmThis Comment
Hi Alison. Well we weren't "trying" but discussed that we weren't going to try and prevent it any more so honestly I wasn't even thinking about getting pregnant while we were having sex. We've had sex a few times since May 8th but I don't believe I was ovulating. According to the chart I looked at I would have been ovulating around May 22-26 and I believe we had sex after those days. I am so confused now as to when I will be ovulating again so we can try for real this time. Isn't it usually a week after your period? You would think being 29 and having two kids I would know these things by now. I didn't go through anything like this with my other two and that makes this even more frustrating for me. The blood was not pink, it was red, so I guess it was just a really short/lite period.
June 1, 2010 - 3:55pmThis Comment