Due to have a hysterectomy but am scared to death after viewing a video about side effects!

To Anonymous Posted on Nov. 28th:

My "Amen"s to you, my 'Dearest'. You stated something so hideous - "I too, am one of the 'millions' plus women who have LOST THEIR LIFE because of trust I put in my doctor..." What a sad, sad statement.

Has anyone seen the fact based movie entitled, "The Changeling"? It may seem I am off on a tangent with this, but think about it - those who have seen the movie/know the story of a woman fighting with the L.A. police and law back in 1928; this due to she having a young son gone missing, and the police deliver to her another child after 5 months. She claims the child is not her son. She fights and even is passed off that it is in 'HER MIND', and that something is just wrong with her. It is a must see movie. My point being is that women are still "Passed Off" with and after Hysterectomies - because they are 'WOMEN'. It is certainly not the problem lying with a doctor. It is the woman who is wrong, and with this woman; it was back in 1928. Has that much changed with a woman?

Of course - there are several points here: One - Women are still treated as emotional and frail and not knowing creatures. They are passed off still in the medical world, and with their 'female parts' being on the 'inside' and unseen; what is not seen on the outside - must not be. As I have said in my comments previously whether here or on other sites; men have their sexual 'tools' on the outside, and 'heaven forbid' a man having his balls cut off, and his penis cut in off. This is my personal view in comparison to a Hysterectomy for a female, but feel I am 'right on'. A woman has her uterus removed (the penis), and her ovaries taken out (the 'balls'). What person would think a man could function/survive, be just 'fine' and okay with these gone? Tell me what the difference is, basically, when in comparison between a man and a woman? Oh, a man can still pee and do other bodily functions, but how would this man feel? Would this man ever feel the same again? Would people feel compassion for a man losing these? Would doctors do everything in their power to make sure every other measure was taken; i.e., alternative surgeries/procedures or methods to SAVE a man's penis and 'balls'? Why should this be any different for women? Now, let us mention the PHYSICAL of this - the whole body being physically disrupted with the 'insides' of women. This is worse than a man losing his penis and 'balls'. There is more damage done to the insides with nerves, tendons, and ligaments cut and torn. There is more prolapse with the insides with other organs. There is more loss with hormones, testaterones, etc., and the female 'insides' are much more complex, and the man may lose his penis, etc., but the woman loses so much more; including her sexual drive and whole being. Oh, yes the man loses his 'tool', but not his drive to the degree a woman does. The fatigue is over-whelming at times. A man does not lose this: as his insides have not been 'drained' and cut out, and ... butchered. Butchered is too polite of word, in fact. A dead animal gets butchered. Women are left alive...

I was a strong, vibrant, and hard working female before my Hyst., and nothing, I thought, could keep me 'down'. I was wrong. I curse the doctor who did this to me every single day. Just when I bend over to do something; my back hurts. I have horrible fatigue. I have not made love with my husband for almost a year. I say this also... I was known as a 'sex kitten' prior to my Hyst., and my husband surely has suffered; as he misses that 'kitten' who promoted the love making at least twice a week (honestly), and with the great lingerie on and fish nets, and I put that on because I wanted to... (By the way, we had been married for 22 years when I had my Hyst., so there was no question on our marriage.) I ache for him; as he has suffered for what this doctor did to him by doing this to me. So, it is not just the woman who suffers. Plus, with women who have children, like me - the children suffer also. I have not been there for my children, since the Hyst., and they do not understand why I have changed so dramatically. This could be, as a mother, the sickest thing the doctor did - period... (I am crying right now...) How do we get across to these doctors and everyone else that this is inhumane, and it has to stop!!! I just hope that there is hope for me and all of you out there who suffer as I, but as I have said before; Heaven forbid this continues in the generation of my daughter and grand-daughter(s). CEASE this, doctors, NOW!!! Laws need to be passed also. It has to be a well written "Informed Consent" form, and has to be notarized by someone, and has to be signed by three other people chosen by the woman; so all have been made aware of the consent being signed; but also in the document signed - that the woman has been given and written on this - all other alternatives available, and also that NO SURGERY MAY BE REQUIRED. That was my case, at least, with two small fibroids in my uterus - just causing heavy bleeding. I got suckered into having a Hyst. due to the doctor scaring me by saying I was "losing so much blood every period for the last four months; you cannot afford to have even one more period". Little did I know - I could have done nothing, and taken care of this with a regime of iron and other vitamin supplements. Plus, I could have been made aware that by doing nothing, my fibroids would very well shrink and all this go away in just a matter of 'time', and not that long - since I was 48 at the time. Not that doctors can predict when a female goes through her menopause, but I would have much rather have gone through that; rather than the 'Hell' I live with now, and my husband's pain, and also my children. To me, this is an "Informed Consent". How dare doctors do this and get away with this.

I wish I could win a Lottery. I would put (honestly) so much of the winnings into fighting for this "Informed Consent", plus other matters involved with this, and... get the word out in written form to help women who have gone through this to give to their loved ones - so they can convince their 'significant other', family, and friends that they are not alone and this is real and physical and very emotional, and they have been 'wronged', and to not give up on them; just do not give into and help what is happening with women now, and has been for way too long - to the tune of millions and millions of women everywhere with greedy, power happy, and uncaring doctors, hospitals, etc., etc.. I would love to put my doctor in my body for one day - just one day. Of course, he is a male - so he still would have no idea of what we women truly have suffered with after a Hysterectomy, but also would love to have him respond to what he feels like after he has his penis cut down, and his 'balls' removed. I would ask him, after he dealt with this for about two years; come to him, and ask him how it's going. I just do wonder what he would say.

All of you out there - take care - I am so sorry for anyone else suffering - please share any helpful ideas/any thoughts on this.

See Dandy

XOX!!!

Amen to SeeDandy1!!! I too, am one of the million plus woman who have lost their life because of a trust I put in my Doctor (a.k.a. Butcher). Bless your heart for telling it EXACTLY like it is!! :(

My name is Jennifer and I live in Maryland. We will be meeting with a gynecological oncologist at Sanai hospital in Baltimore. My husband, mother and husband's family are all here as well as friends. There are many unknowns right now until we meet with the oncologist on Wednesday.

Cancer cells were found in one of the ovaries which was removed during the hysterectomy. Will meet next Wednesday with an oncologist to see what's next.

Just curious to know what you ultimately decided about your surgery. I am 38 yr old, no kids and just had my hysterectomy this past Thursday. I have suffered from endometriosis for well over ten years, which went untreated until 2005. We tried Lupron treatment to no avail, I developed progressively worsening cysts, fibroids and the endo got worse. I ASKED for the surgery to get some relief and am praying that I won't encounter all these horror stories I am reading here. If I do, I will have to accept that an move forward. The pain the endo caused was not worth holding on to the organs. Just curious on what other endo sufferers have done.

Just curious to know what you ultimately decided about your surgery. I am 38 yr old, no kids and just had my hysterectomy this past Thursday. I have suffered from endometriosis for well over ten years, which went untreated until 2005. We tried Lupron treatment to no avail, I developed progressively worsening cysts, fibroids and the endo got worse. I ASKED for the surgery to get some relief and am praying that I won't encounter all these horror stories I am reading here. If I do, I will have to accept that an move forward. The pain the endo caused was not worth holding on to the organs. Just curious on what other endo sufferers have done.