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Has anyone ever been sad for a very long time?

By May 16, 2009 - 1:16pm
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I lost my brother and sister within a year of each other 3 years ago and then my mother in law, my friend died last year. 12 years before that my mom and dad died 6 weeks of each other. I am the only living member of my original family. I thought I had dealt with all of this death and sadness, but I am finding that I am sad more than not and can't seem to shake it. Does anyone have any advice for me? I have done the grief councelling thing in the past and it helped, but now I think I am just overwhelmed with the loss of all of these people.

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I am so sorry to hear about your losses, and resulting sadness and grief.

To answer your initial question, I have experienced being sad for a long time previously, and it was also due to life circumstances, albeit situations that I chose (relocating, relationships, etc). I believe that sadness from situations that you can not control (death of loved ones) is much different in comparison to being sad from situations that you can control (relocation--you can move; relationships--you can mostly change).

I agree with Susan about your long term sadness; have you considered going back to grief counseling, since it helped you previously? Profound losses can take years, decades, to heal from. Healing and recovery can be lifelong journeys, and they become easier over time with the right support. Do you feel that you have a good social support system with other family members, friends, co-workers? You mentioned your mother-in-law; are you currently married? Are you open to receiving continued and long term counseling, to help in your recovery process to your long-term sadness?

Here is a big virtual HUG...let us know how you are doing!

May 17, 2009 - 7:08am
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