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How do i better myself?

By Anonymous April 11, 2011 - 10:02am
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I had a lot of trauma in my life as a child, my parebts split up and my mother decided she didnt want me so i went to live with my dad and his wife. I went 16 years without any contact with my mother because 'she didnt wanna know me' but when i turned 16 my fathers wife decided she no longer wanted me around so my father chose his wife over his 2 daughters. Now my biological mother has decided she wants to be involved, i've let her but she keeps letting me down. All of this has completely lowered my self esteem and confidence and i've become very angry, which i unintentionally take out on my boyfriend. What could i do to make me less angry and become a better persob without medication and psychiatrists?

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I have a similar story, My Mom always loved me, but didnt ever want to be a mother, so she left when i was a young child with my dad. He was a decent father, but he was addicted to drugs and would beat us when he was high. I also have a boyfriend of 5 years that i take out my anger on and say things that i dont mean. But he has been very patient and i have gotten so much better, i am still angry but i get better every day as i get older. You learn to forgive your parents, and learn what kind of person you want to be. Usually parents are only really important for the first 18 years then your left to figure it out for the next 60 years. Use your parents mistakes as a learning tool, to create the beautiful person you can become, if you have the determination to never be that way, you will over come it and be much more confident knowing you grew and got strong despite the bad hand you've been delt.

April 22, 2011 - 4:21pm
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Thank you for your comment, it has really made me rethink everything. I've always looked at the negative things in my life but now i see i can take the negative to become a positive. Thank you <3

May 8, 2011 - 12:49pm

This was my original question i just hadn't made an account yet. Thank you so much, just reading the advice you've given has given me a more positive outlook. I will definately read the book, it sounds like it could help me a lot. I really appreciate the time you've taken out to answer my questions. Thank you.

April 11, 2011 - 1:08pm
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