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How get my desire for sex back during undiagnosed menopause and mental health also being a factor.

By May 31, 2018 - 10:19pm
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My brief medical history needs to be considered for accurate information to answer my questions regarding my current health. At 30 years old I made the decision to have a complete hysterectomy that would eliminate inheriting ovarian cancer and cervical cancer that HPV can cause. My Dr immediately started HRT and that worked for about 6 years. After a terrifying condition was found. I learned that there's a family history of having hardening of the arteries and that if I wasn't careful it is possible I could lose a limb, or worse, dieing from blood clots if developed close to my lungs, heart, or brain. My Dr's explained that the risks of taking HRT posed TOO high of a threat to my life. Its been 2 years and I've been experiencing symptoms related to menopause. Many symptoms I learned that could explain how I've been thinking and feeling and especially my out of the ordinary hateful behavior. I've noticed some isolation I've been experiencing. I don't want to be around anyone or ever go anywhere. I also am diagnosed with bipolar and boarder line personality disorders with many of the same symptoms. I have taken phych medications since I was 25. I'm ONLY 38!! After my sex drive, thoughts, and desire for ANYTHING sexual recently causing my husband and I constantly fighting and arguing and its our only reason that we do. PLEASE help me !! THANK YOU

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Hello, ask-seek-hope. Thank you for posting today!

I'm sure you are not alone in this. Hopefully, some members of our community can share similar experiences and what helped them.   It's a good idea to speak with your doctor.  Most gynecologists will broach the subject at your yearly checkup (mine does). Asking if there are any issues with sex. Doctors can offer help and suggestions.  What makes it harder in your case, is you have other issues that are likely impacting your sexual desire.  Taking control of these issues (getting on the right medication and dosage) will go a long way toward making you feel better which can help bring sexual desire back.  

Below is a resource that can help as a general guideline. Keep us updated on how you are doing.

A Woman's Guide to Reviving Sex Drive

Copy & paste the link:  https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/sex-drive-and-menopause#1



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