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How to remove fear of sex

By October 3, 2013 - 1:38pm
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I m 24yrs old n after a few days I m getting married.I love my guy very much,but m scared 2 go near to him.I m fear of having sex.I dont even have much knowledge about it,how to motivate,how to start,dirty talks,sex positions etc etc.I even dont know how to undress him or myself.So,can anyone give me an idea about sex and how to remove my fear about it as I think sex as dirty thing.How can u get naked in front of a man(btw I m South Asian n in our culture we don have sex before marriage.).

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hey!! me too from south asia..iam newly married,and i have the same problem fear of intercourse..iam in really bad need to overcome this..Feel free to discuss with me and we can share our thoughts and support each other and try togther to ovecome this ...

January 13, 2014 - 9:25am

Hello qwert,

I would like to welcome you to the EmpowHER website and thank you for seeking our help with your concerns and anxiety about being intimate with your soon to be husband.

Though we come from different parts of the world and have been raised with different cultural norms, I can appreciate how you are feeling.

Qwert, try to see sexual intimacy as a way of expressing your love for your husband. By remaining a virgin until marriage, you have reserved a precious gift for only one man, the man you will soon marry.

Sexuality begins with the mind. You need to work on refocusing your negative thoughts of sex as dirty to positive thoughts that sexual intimacy is pleasurable.

Can you discuss your feelings freely with your fiance? Is there a female relative whom you trust and can help you prepare for marriage?



October 3, 2013 - 4:51pm
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