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Husband on gay dating sites

By Anonymous June 2, 2017 - 9:27am
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One year ago this coming Jun 14th I learned that my husband was on two gay dating sites. It was the shock of my life. This was one week before our 3rd anniversary and 3 days before my kids and grandkids were meeting us to meet his kids and grandkids. (They live on opposite sides of the country). And two weeks after his 50th high school reunion. Nothing could have surprised me more. He said he had just signed up for them as a lark and never met anyone and I believed him because we were rarely apart. He begged for forgiveness and because my kids spent a lot of money to meet us I didn't feel I could leave him at that point. Then we had a big roadtrip planned seeing more family. He begged me and I caved and went through with it. He had always been such a great husband. And by his and my account we had a good sex life. I should mention we were 68 and 64 at the time. Then on Nov 8th I learned he was sexting with a woman. I can't get over it. I don't know what to do. He went to a counselor. She thought he was a sex addict and wanted him to go to 12 step meetings. I am not willing to have a life where my husband is going to 12 step meetings. I have had that kind of drama in my life before and I am not willing to do it again. I don't think anything else has happened since Nov 8th but of course I don't really know because I don't constantly check what he is doing on his phone. He is a great husband in every other way. How to get past this?

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Hello Anonymous,

Welcome to EmpowHER. Thank you for sharing your story, honestly and bravely.

Have you considered counseling for yourself? It may be good for you to speak with an impartial third party, such as a therapist specially trained in this area.


June 2, 2017 - 9:36am
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