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I'm 32 and have never had desire or orgasm from penetration :(

By Anonymous April 20, 2013 - 10:05pm
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Just because i don't have the good feeling down there with increased blood flow doesn't mean i avoid intercourse. I still love it, but i don't get any satisfaction. I told my OBGYN and she said its the pill. I told her i didn't even have it when i was in my 20s and not on the pill. The only way i can have an orgasm is by using my hands to rub myself during sex, but some positions don't make that easy. So i can't always finish myself. My boyfriend does not go down on me, and i don't want to ask him to. I've tried B-12, horny goat weed, oysters (yuk), chocolate, and all those other boosters and no help.. I remember once when i was 16 i was in bed at night and had this overwhelming feeling of pleasure down there and i felt so wet, i had no idea what to do.. and now i'm 32 I hope i get that feeling again. :(

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Hi Anonymous,

You are not alone. Women's ability to orgasm is much different than mens and YES, most of time, we have to control that ourselves. If you tell your partner this information, you may hurt his ego and therefore, you have to be careful how you can try and approach him to "give you pleasure" rather than doing it yourself all the time. I think, in general, men like to pleasure their partner so having this conversation should be necessary especially since you may have not had this conversation in the past since it appears you have not been able to orgasm without your own assistance. Communicate - then smile!

Good luck,

April 21, 2013 - 7:03am
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