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im not sure what to do!

By Anonymous February 14, 2011 - 5:05pm
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So my boyfriend and I have decided to become sexually active together, but we've discovered that, to put it bluntly, he doesn't fit. He thinks that I should go see a gynecologist, which seems like a logical solution, except that I read about them online and am seriously not interested in a stranger probing me in various ways. I know it seems unreasonable because millions of women go on a regular basis, but I'm just not okay with it. I come from a family who, unfortunately, doesn't go to a doctor unless they are visibly ill, and certainly doesn't talk about anything sexual. I don't even know if my insurance covers it! What do I do?

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Thanks for bringing your question to us.

Let's begin with the question of your insurance policy covering a gynecologist's visit. Check what services are covered by your policy. You can do this by checking your benefits manual or calling your insurance company and asking a customer representative about covered services. Often, there will be a list of physicians that accept a particular insurance plan.

Talk with trusted friends to find a gynecologist that they recommend. The thought of a gynecological exam can seem over whelming but as a sexually active young woman, it is something you really need to do. But you need to feel comfortable with the doctor you choose.

If you are still a virgin, your hymen is still intact. What you and your boyfriend experienced should possibly be an inperforate hymen.

It is important for you to monitor your reproductive health with pap smears and consider a form of birth control. A trusted gynecologist can answer questions. Is it not better to be proactive and not wait until you have a real problem.

February 14, 2011 - 5:58pm
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