So I'll try to sum it up - I have chronic pain, PTSD, and am in Intelligence which means I view and analyze nasty shit (Daesh/the [un-]'Islamic State')beheadings, KFR hostage videos etc.). This lends itself to my having some issues with ED, and multiple issues w/. Pre-mature (PME). I have declined hits, and talk leading to "Wanna get a drink?" or "Go to my place?". I'm trying to get better (analgesic/Narcotic (opioid) management, stress-reduction etc.), but still find it hard to be invited over for a drink or more and then say "Well see, I've got this problem and it means you might not find me the best in bed". Obviously there are bloody good reasons for this, but nonetheless I find it demeaning and nor do I want there to have to put up with some who can't really satisfy her.
How understanding do you say a 20-something y.o. would be of this, and how do I approach this (except for the Cialis and pain-killers ;))?