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Years ago , i was at my cousins 17th birthday and i saw this guy who i really liked. i added him on facebook , and sent him a message months later asking who he is. He answed in a verry mean way and delted me of facebook.I met him last summer , he didnt realize that i existed. How ever this summer , I met him couple of times and i didnt pay attention ... i didnt seem him and i didnt really care. After summer ends he ADDS me on facebook. He sends an inbox and starts speaking alot to me . At the begining i was playing hard to get it but withen couple of hours or days we have spoken quite a bit. Days later, we started flirting alot , and then dating. Only problem i have never really spoken to him face to face. We only speak everyday , every second by blackberry messenger , some times skype or facebook.
He has a reputation of player everyone tells me that he might cheat on me. How ever he seems such a good person. i love his personality and he makes me smile but still ... i mean i live in moroco and he lives in the STATES .. that is miles amd miles away and i m not ngoing to see him not until December. we have so many plans for the futur and im scared.
I like him sooooo much yet im wooried he plays me . at the same time i dont care if he does because atleast i was serious , and he is worth it. Hes not a jealous type at all... and im not used to that all my exes wr jealous ... so i dont know if its his personality or he doesnt care. but at the same time some times he does get jealous but he mentions that he trustss me ,nad i shiouldnt hurt him.
Right afer our first month a couple of weeks ago m, i wanted to test him. i got a friend to send himt his conversation that i was having with an ex of mine. we wr flirting alot and he got soo mad that he broke up with me for a couple of days. i was soooooo shoked ... i didnt know it was that eassy. when he asked me back again i didnt want. well i did but i showed him that i didnt want. i want him beg me for a couple of days than we wnet back.
Im having a hard time in schoooool and i stress alot.... and im being mean to him lately. im fighting for no reason im doubting him etc etc.
Its just tht tooo many people speak and i know his reputauion adn im confused? he is very cute and handsommme and many girls want him so yeah can he not cheat on me even if hes a 19 year old who studies in atlanta?
The thing is which bothers me is our relation ship is based on " love" and not friend ship. and i personally think that the best realtionships are the relationships based on friendship.
Can it be love ? or Infactuation ?
His friends as i have mentinned befor hate me and even more his exes. His friends are all mt brothers friends. and he has problems with my bro they hate each other because he dated my brothers bestfriend and he played her.
when i was younger like arounf the age o 13 till 15 i was ver hyper inargatiaue and loud. i wanted to get all the attention from alll guys and i did everything fo that.... and thats why i think people do sprak abt me nw. but i believe i have changed and i wanna change for the better if it works with him. i just dontt knw ... im confused. Im worreied but i dont doubt him. its wieerrrrd !!!
should i let other girls call him baby ? sweety? etc ... ? i dont want to be the jealous riend i want to change and for the good.
Can you love someine you never really talked to ? can n you love some one ou never kissed ? can u love someone you only dated for 1 month and a half. and WHY me ?
and Ps im 17
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Hi Ayaliar
I hear a couple of things going on here. First, you are having a long distance relationship with someone you don't know very well. That is fine, I mean, it won't hurt anything to see where it goes.
The main thing I hear is you playing games with this guy. Testing him, fighting for no reason, being unkind...I don't know if this is just a lack of maturity on your part, or if you have some issues that make you mistreat people. But it sounds like for all the worry you have about being taking advantage of somehow, you are the one who isn't being honest or kind.
Leave friends out of the picture. It doesn't matter what his friends think or what they gossip about. What matters are your interactions with him. If you don't really like him, don't string him along. Don't be mean to him, don't play games with him by testing him or teasing him. Treat him how you want to be treated. The relationship is between the two of you, no one else, so make those interactions nice ones.
If you don't really like him all that much, don't waste his time or yours. Just move on. If you do like him or love him, act like it or you will lose him. No one wants to be the butt of a joke.
Good luck and thanks for writing.
October 11, 2010 - 6:34amThis Comment