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Is it normal for my husband and I not to have sex often?

By Anonymous August 7, 2014 - 10:30pm
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I'm 20 years old as well as my husband. He's been the only man in my life and will be. I lost my virginity to him when I was 17 and he was 16. We use to have sex a lot and I was very pleased. As soon as we got together and got married our sex life came to a down fall there have been times that we don't have sex in 3 weeks. I get really horny almost all the time but he doesn't anymore. I barely get satisfied and he does all the time we have sex. Is there something wrong with me? Am I a sex addict? Please help! It's really hard for me to understand why I want to have sex all the time and he doesn't. It hurts me knowing I probably don't please him anymore.

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Hello Anonymous,

Thank you for reaching out to us with your concerns about your sex life after marriage. Let me assure you that there is nothing wrong with you or your husband. You are dealing with desire discrepancy.

"Desire Discrepancy (DD) is the term used to describe sex drive differences between a couple. DD is a common issue for many couples and can result in much frustration and disharmony in a relationship. "
wrote Victoria Morrissey

Victoria Morrissey, a counselor and psycotherapist wrote an article entitled " Sex drive differences between couples (Desire Discrepancy)
I thought it might help you with your situation.

Here is the link:

I hope this is helpful.


August 8, 2014 - 8:28am
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Anonymous (reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

Thank you! It has helped a lot!

August 13, 2014 - 1:30pm
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