My boyfriend and I will have been dating for 2 years in March but we just don't have sex like we used to. I know in the beginning it's the "honey-mooner days" so we could barely keep our hands off of each other for more than 30 seconds but in July 2009 it really just dropped off. I originally became really self-conscious and decided to talk to him about it where he informed me that he had just been switched over to some new medication (for his migraines) that drops his libido. I decided I would be patient and wait to see if anything changed. It's now November 2010 and the sex life is still where it was before. I feel like we have sex once every two weeks, if not longer. When we do have sex, it's passionate and very much the whole "i love you" type sex as opposed to the some fun quickies, but having that slow more intimate sex gives me hope that at least when we do have it the love is still there. I would like to increase sex on all levels as well as our sexual experimentation. I have been patient recently because he is clinically depressed and I know that when one is depressed sex drive takes a hit. It's not that he just won't have sex either, becasue when I initiate it he still gets hard and he'll still be down for it. There's the option for me just to initiate it more often but even in the beginning of the relationship I was doing that and that worked well until he just started turning me down so now I don't go for it as much anymore. I really worried and concerned, I know that lack of sex in a relationship can mean that the relationship is failing and that spark isn't there anymore. I myself and quite the nympho and want sex everyday as much as I can get it so for me it's been quite a challenge to be patient about this for so long. I miss the frequency of having sexytime 1-2 times a day but I realize that we probably won't get up to that. My biggest issue with the whole thing is that he just plain doesn't initiate it. I don't know what to do at this point becasue I've already talked to him a few times and I don't want to be hounding him about it, but I really want us to be close and intimate. He barely even talks to me about sex either! In the past I have brought up fantasies, fetishes, things that we're into and he never really continues the conversation nor does he try to initiate anything new in the bedroom. Help.. I'm concerned, worried, paranoid, upset, and most of all sexually-frustrated!!!
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