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My Fiancee doesn't want to have sex anymore with me.

By May 26, 2011 - 6:08am
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I have been together with my Partner for 3 years, last year we had a baby and our relationship has been rocky on and off since the beginning. At the beginning everything was perfect, he was perfect and we were intimate ALOT! But about a year into the relationship maybe even less he just seemed less and less interested in being intimate. In the last 6 months we have probably been intimate twice. He says he is stressed about finding a job and has a low libido because of his tablets, he is taking Pristique... but even before he started taking the medication he was not wanting to be intimate. We barely even touch... i just don't know what to do anymore. I don't think he is physically cheating on me because we are with each other nearly 24/7.. i have seen text messages before from other woman though, im thinking he meets them online for a chat and flirt. I don't know. Things are tough at the moment especially with a toddler.....

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Thank you for your comments. I'm not sure what I will do... I think you are right Rosa, he is emotionally disconnected with me and i guess i am feeling the same way too now, however i am not chatting to other men... I guess there's only so much one can take. I hope that things get better because the thought of going through family courts or him trying to take my baby away makes me feel SICK!!!!

May 27, 2011 - 8:55pm
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Why do you think he'll try to take your baby away? Has he threatened you with this? Or is it just a thought? In the U.S., men can't take a mother's child just because :) If you are a good mother, you have nothing to worry about.

Cross the separation bridge when you get there but as of now how are you feeling about your relationship? Have you two talked?


May 30, 2011 - 7:14am
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yeah man that hurt in im going though the same thing as well i just had a baby last oct. in i went though hes facebook page in we was talkin to other women and i forgave him and now were not have sex and i want it so bad that im thinking a bout cheating on him because i still love him and i do want to be with him but its been to long and i have a new guy friend,now thats a lession to lean from men .If your not doing the work someone eles would but the only thing im scard of getting cought because we do hve a child together .

May 27, 2011 - 6:49am

Hi cherries,

I'm sorry you're going through this-- He is stressed out about not having a job but he's finding time to chat with other women? About what? His low libido and unemployment? I'm assuming by what you said that the messages you read from other women were flirtacious and not just regular texts from women that you both know. If this is the case then you should sit him down for a long conversation. Quite frankly, the fact that he isn't having sex with you any more goes hand-in-hand with him forming emotional relationships with other women. Getting to the bottom of what's going on with him emotionally is really where the focus should be going-- it seems like the low libido and stress are a cop-out for being physically and emotionally disconnected with you. If you're going to marry this man, these issues should be addressed before the big "I do's".

All the best,


May 26, 2011 - 8:18am
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