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My girlfriend blames me for abortion

By Anonymous March 25, 2017 - 6:19pm
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My girlfriend has an unplanned pregnancy about 2 months ago. We were shocked but I told her that I was willing to be responsible for the child and her and would be happy to. I also told her that I would do whatever to provide for her financially. A few days later she told me that she decided to go for an abortion but things just went downhill from there. She started getting angry at me and said she hated me.... I couldn't be there for her during the abortion. She wouldn't allow me to go. She refused to see me from that day. I was totally devastated and helpless. I did what i could, I bought her food that was good for her, I made her soup and i left it outside her house. I wrote her letters to tell her what I felt and how sorry i am that she had to bear the consequences. I wrote her poems and sang her songs. But i was never pushy or texted her nonstop. Still that didn't work, she was still angry at me. About 1 and a half months later, she finally broke up with me... We were really great before this and she was the love of my life. Can anyone give me any advice or had similar experiences? I really want her back...

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Dear, Anon.

Thank you for reaching out to our community.

I'm sorry you both had to go through such a hard time.

From your post, it seems you were a good boyfriend to her and did all you could (that she would allow) to support her. Having an abortion can be very difficult for some women. She may need time to herself. Breaking up with you may be her way of trying to put the abortion behind her. I don't know this of course, but it's possible. As much as you might want her back, she has to want it too. So you need to keep that in mind.

I hope others can share their experiences with you.

All the best,


March 26, 2017 - 4:27am
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