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pregnant and dont want to .........

By Anonymous January 20, 2011 - 9:41pm
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I dated a guy for 2yrs then come to find out that while we were separated for 9mths he got a girl pregnant, when we hooked back up he did not mentioned it to me not until after the baby was 3mths old.He said that while we were dating he did not want a relationship, i was the one wanting it, REASON he claimhe was dealing with trust issues.the girl he had the baby with say they were in an open relationship for 8yrs that ended 3mths ago, he say he dont want her nor did he want the baby.Im pregnant by him and he want me to have an abortion, i dont want to have an abortion nor do I want to have a child with him.I have had an abortion in the pass it still drive me crazy.I need help please, what to do? Im 26yr have my own place, booming career, and about to start grad school.my parents are fond of him, my sister dont have a liking for him. Im too ashame and embarrassed to talk to my family.

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Hi Anonymous,
I completely understand your dilemma. I am 33 years old and career minded as well. From what I read above, I will make a clear assumption that you are a woman that is in control of her life. Having a child may not have been in your plans, BUT handling the situation at hand, will be difficult although, you will find a way to do it all....sort of like Super Woman syndrome.
You can still have your hopes and dreams come true to include a new baby in it. Don't be afraid of what if's.....and get the answers to your questions. Call the Human Resource Department at your new job and ask about maternity leave, plan and make the needed adjustments.
I really hope you keep in touch with us as we certainly can be a great resource for you. No matter what your decision is, there is no one to judge you and no one to tell you what to do.....do not be coerced into something that you do not agree with, only you can make YOUR decision.

Best of luck and cannot wait to hear from you again,

January 22, 2011 - 10:26am
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