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The same anonymous 35 yrs old lady who does not know how to do sex

By Anonymous May 27, 2011 - 7:45pm
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Hi Rosa, thanks for your reply. Appreciate it. Maybe my question was not clear enough. I m a wife. My husband has been trying to penetrate but until now no success for us. He has been blaming me that I m pushing him away each time he tries to penetrate. Maybe I m stronger than him thats why he is not able to control me. Its true. Its very painful each time he tries to penetrate. I have gone for check-ups. Docs gave me bius and then only able to check my vagina. Thank GOD, doc said all in normal condition. Just that I need to be more relax. I tried, but I failed. I do not know how to relax. I thought maybe if I m directed properly by watching sex education videos maybe I would improve. But so difficult to get education sex videos. What I got from net is always porn videos which does not help at all. I do not prefer reading coz I have read a lot but does not understand. I thought of watching who knows it might help. Help me please. Guide me please. Thanks.

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Hi Anon,

Sorry for the misunderstanding. I think you may want to see another doctor regarding this-- because you say it is painful when your husband tries to penetrate you. You may have a condition called Vulvodynia, Vulvodynia is chronic pain or discomfort in the vulva. The vulva is often called the lips of the vagina. The vulva includes:
■Labia (labia majora and labia minora)
■Vaginal opening

Please take a look at our Vulvodynia page here: https://www.empowher.com/condition/vulvodynia/definition

If the pain, is more in the pelvic area than it is externally then you may have Dyspareunia https://www.empowher.com/media/reference/dyspareunia

One thing I can say is that pain during intercouse may be normal the first couple of times but should definitely go away. After 5 years of marriage, if you are having pain to the point where you push your husband off of you then you may be suffering from one of these conditions. If you're doctor seems dismissive of your concerns, please consider a second opinion.

All the best!


May 28, 2011 - 5:56am
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