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is there a big difference in seriousness between making out and making out with the guy lying on tiop of the girl?

By Anonymous June 17, 2010 - 4:57pm
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Ah, thanks so much for clarifying. I can see now why the difference is important to you.

Here's what I would say: The answer to this question lies with you, Anon. It seems important to you, and therefore if I were you I would go ahead and tell the therapist, even if it seems a little uncomfortable to talk about it. When we are talking with a therapist, it's so important to be absolutely 100 percent honest, because that's the only way we'll get things out and dealt with.

In general, I think many people would say that there's a slight escalation of intent between making out and making out while lying down. It really depends on the intent of the two people involved. If the intent of the boy you were with was to push forward -- and you didn't want to -- then that's significant.

But it doesn't mean you did anything wrong, Anon. The fact that you are thinking about this carefully now tells me that it's important to you. So the next time you see the therapist, maybe you can say something like, "I was thinking more about what we talked about last time and I left a little bit out. Can we go over that again?"

Would that help?

June 18, 2010 - 9:38am

It depends...
What is your definition of "making out"?
What is your definition of "serious"?

There are a million different ways to define "making out", as this can include a wide variety of sexual activities; from kissing in the car to touching each other without clothes on.

Are you asking if this behavior is "serious" because you want to know:
- Does the guy/girl like you (as in, "is s/he serious about me?")
- If this is something that can cause a pregnancy or STD?
- Does this mean I am still a virgin?

Let us know more about what your question is, and why, and we can help guide you to the answer!

June 17, 2010 - 5:04pm
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Anonymous (reply to Alison Beaver)

Well I am talking to my therapist about something that happened with a guy a couple years ago. I didn't want what happened but I didn't say more than I was uncomfortable with what we were doing. He made out with me (kissing) and then got on top of me. That is why I want to know if there is a big enough difference between lying on top of and making out because I said making out but didn't tell her he got on top of me.

June 17, 2010 - 5:16pm
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