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What could be wrong with my boyfriend? And what can I do to help him?

By January 2, 2013 - 2:15pm
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I have been seeing my boyfriend for 6 months. At first we would have sex every chance we got. About 3-4 months into our relationship the sex just stopped. He turned me down so I though it was because he want to be the instigator of sex. So I stopped trying to get him to have sex with me. That didn't work and now we barely have sex once a week. He blamed it on stress in his life (work, moving etc). We don't live together and don't see ach over a whole lot. He finally told me it was his sex drive. But here's the thing his penis still gets hard. So I don't think it's a testosterone problem. I'm really tired we don't have this closeness, other than this he's a great guy. But I feel if we don't get this fixed it might end our relationship. Please help.

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Hello Lehcar72,

Low libido or sex drive in men is more common than thought. Fatigue is an often cited reason. Prescribed medications, particularly antidepressant and anti-hypertensive medications, alcohol use or drug use, and low testosterone are known causes of low sex drive.

If these obvious reasons have been eliminated, you and your boyfriend need to look at your relationship to find a solution. One possible solution is couples therapy, and another is some long, honest talks.


January 2, 2013 - 6:11pm
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Anonymous (reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

I think you also need to put more effort into increasing your excitement when you are having sex.Think about what exactly is wrong.Once you pinpoint the problem, you'll be able to work on fixing it.
Natural Male Enhancement pills can improve sexual desire and increase sex stamina.

March 20, 2013 - 4:47am
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